Never add people's phone numbers from a group text without their permission

rdgrad15 · Mar 23, 2024 at 09:12 AM

I'm the kind of person where if I'm in a group text chat whether it's work related or not, I never add anyone's number to my contacts without their permission regardless of how long I've known them. It may sound like I'm just being weird but I do know that it can be seen as creepy if you just add their number, they may not want you have it and may be perceived as strange if they found out their number is in your contacts. I only add people's numbers if they text me one-on-one first or if they specifically tell me that I can add their contact info into my phone, other people have found it shocking that I don't add people's numbers right away but I just don't feel comfortable without their permission. That goes for asking for other people's contact info too which I've talked about before, I never ask unless I absolutely have to which I absolutely hate doing but otherwise I let others take the initiative or even give them my number first and let them decide what to do.

RDMercer · Mar 23, 2024 at 03:44 PM

I totally agree.

Even more so in mixed company. I'll never send male and female coworkers group texts unless we've already agreed to share info.

And never with friends unless at the request of an introduction.

rdgrad15 · Mar 23, 2024 at 06:03 PM

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Originally Posted by RDMercer

I totally agree.

Even more so in mixed company. I'll never send male and female coworkers group texts unless we've already agreed to share info.

And never with friends unless at the request of an introduction.

Yep I agree, it just sounds so intrusive asking for a number without a very good reason. Even when there is a good reason, I still get anxious since the receiving person still may not like being asked. Adding a number without permission just doesn't feel right, I prefer to have permission. I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels this way, some people may see this way of thinking as weird but it's just the way it is.

RDMercer · Mar 23, 2024 at 10:07 PM

I think it's important.

How well do we know the people around us?

And the people around us may act very differently with us than with someone else.

You could be setting someone up to be harassed by someone.

There are 5 of us who work together that all share office coverage. Those group texts go out.

But that's it.

rdgrad15 · Mar 23, 2024 at 10:26 PM

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Originally Posted by RDMercer

I think it's important.

How well do we know the people around us?

And the people around us may act very differently with us than with someone else.

You could be setting someone up to be harassed by someone.

There are 5 of us who work together that all share office coverage. Those group texts go out.

But that's it.

Yep exactly and I never ever give people other people’s numbers either. Also that’s how it is at my work in terms of coverages and I don’t add any numbers in the group texts unless I’m given permission to add them to my contacts..

Mountaindewed · Mar 23, 2024 at 10:34 PM

Someone added me to a group facebook chat of kids I knew in highschool. She meant well but most of these people I weren't friends with or didn't like. It was super awkward.

rdgrad15 · Mar 24, 2024 at 04:38 AM

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Originally Posted by Mountaindewed

Someone added me to a group facebook chat of kids I knew in highschool. She meant well but most of these people I weren't friends with or didn't like. It was super awkward.

Oh wow yeah that is awkward. Yeah some people mean well but it still may seem weird if you're not close to a group anymore.

eskielover · Mar 25, 2024 at 10:06 AM

Group texts are a challenge. I am in several group texts & know all the people but their numbers are not in my contact list & I end up just guessing whose # it is that is replying. I only have the ones in my contact list I really know well.

Ugh, when in a group of 20+ it is crazy when a text is going & the notification keeps sounding with all the replies. I finally shut off the notification sound cause it drives me crazy

rdgrad15 · Mar 25, 2024 at 02:55 PM

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Originally Posted by eskielover

Group texts are a challenge. I am in several group texts & know all the people but their numbers are not in my contact list & I end up just guessing whose # it is that is replying. I only have the ones in my contact list I really know well.

Ugh, when in a group of 20+ it is crazy when a text is going & the notification keeps sounding with all the replies. I finally shut off the notification sound cause it drives me crazy

Yep same here,, I may have a couple people in my contact list since they already exchanged their numbers with me privately but everyone else isn’t in my contacts. All I see are a bunch of random phone numbers, I agree it can be tricky knowing who is who. Although in some cases, it may become very obvious who some people are. In the group chat I’m in from work, I know who three of the numbers are since they made it very obvious who they are but otherwise it’s a guessing game.

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RDMercer Veteran Member Member Since May 2013 Posts: 746 10 54 hugs given	Mar 23, 2024 at 03:44 PM #2 I totally agree. Even more so in mixed company. I'll never send male and female coworkers group texts unless we've already agreed to share info. And never with friends unless at the request of an introduction.
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RDMercer Veteran Member Member Since May 2013 Posts: 746 10 54 hugs given	Mar 23, 2024 at 10:07 PM #4 I think it's important. How well do we know the people around us? And the people around us may act very differently with us than with someone else. You could be setting someone up to be harassed by someone. There are 5 of us who work together that all share office coverage. Those group texts go out. But that's it.
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Mountaindewed Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Jun 2016 Location: Where the sidewalk ends Posts: 36,234 (SuperPoster!) 7 8,783 hugs given	Mar 23, 2024 at 10:34 PM #6 Someone added me to a group facebook chat of kids I knew in highschool. She meant well but most of these people I weren't friends with or didn't like. It was super awkward. __________________ Ridin' with Biden
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