 |
| FAQ/Help |
| Calendar |
| Search |
|
Member
Member Since Apr 2024
Location: Southern California
Posts: 41
|
Apr 06, 2024 at 04:41 AM
#1
My separated-from wife has called me every name in the book... and then some. Is that verbal abuse?I
|
|
 Reply With Quote
|
 TishaBuv
|
|
Legendary
Member Since Dec 2014
Location: USA
Posts: 10,197
(SuperPoster!)
9 1,875 hugs
given 
|
Apr 06, 2024 at 07:19 AM
#2
Yes name calling is verbal abuse.
__________________ "And don't say it hasn't been a little slice of heaven, 'cause it hasn't!" . About Me--T |
|
|
Reply With Quote
|
|
Wise Elder
Member Since Dec 2017
Location: Eastern, USA
Posts: 9,097
(SuperPoster!)
6 3,628 hugs
given
|
Apr 06, 2024 at 07:22 AM
#3
Technically speaking, yes. However, I must ask you, was it deserved? Not to claim that verbal abuse is OK. My point is that if you treated her poorly, then her words may have been a direct result of how she felt.
I noticed a couple of threads of yours, one of which you say you were a terrible husband, and in the other, you state you were "careless" in your marriage. Do you care to expand upon those points with specifics on how you were a terrible husband? I understand that you are brokenhearted and devastated by the marriage ending. However, if you were an awful husband, do you really blame your wife for wanting to walk away? Sometimes losing someone important that we love is the only way to actuate positive changes in a person. I am very direct and honest with my feedback, so please don't take any offense. I am asking you some important questions to consider in the equation, which is, what did you specifically do that may have prompted these types of reactions from your wife? __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
|
|
Reply With Quote
|
|
Member
Member Since Apr 2024
Location: Southern California
Posts: 41
|
Apr 06, 2024 at 08:03 AM
#4
I just post what I'm feeling at the moment and I certainly don't come here to be attacked.
|
|
|
Reply With Quote
|
|
Wise Elder
Member Since Dec 2017
Location: Eastern, USA
Posts: 9,097
(SuperPoster!)
6 3,628 hugs
given
|
Apr 06, 2024 at 08:07 AM
#5
Quote:
__________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes Last edited by Have Hope; Apr 06, 2024 at 08:24 AM.. |
|
|
|
Reply With Quote
|
|
Member
Member Since Apr 2024
Location: Southern California
Posts: 41
|
Apr 06, 2024 at 08:53 AM
#6
You're absolutely correct. And I shall actuate positive changes and insert them into my equation. Or something.
|
|
|
Reply With Quote
|
 Have Hope
|
|
Legendary Wise Elder
Member Since Oct 2004
Location: Kentucky, USA
Posts: 24,777
(SuperPoster!)
19 14.6k hugs
given
|
Apr 06, 2024 at 01:45 PM
#7
Name calling can happen for many reasons. I know in my case I was being financially hurt & probably emotionally too. Calling names was at the time my only way to fight back.
Bottom line, name calling shines a light on a totally dysfunctional relationship. Name calling can come from frustration or anger the person can't seem to express any other way. OR some people use it as abuse & name calling is their way of hurting someone. It just isn't as simple as it being "abuse" as it can be a response to abuse itself. Something that a simple label can't just be applied without seeing how tge relationship itself is functioning as a whole....but it is definitely a sign of a very dysfunctional relationship no matter what tge cause is of the name calling __________________  Leo's favorite place was in the passenger seat of my truck. We went everywhere together like this. Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018 |
|
|
Reply With Quote
|
|
Rive.
|
| Reply |
|
|
Similar Threads
|
||||
| Thread | Forum | |||
| Name-calling. What's next? | Relationships & Communication | |||
| Calling T | Psychotherapy | |||
| calling someone | Eating Disorders | |||
| Calling T | Psychotherapy | |||
My Support Forums is the online community that was originally begun as the Psych Central Forums in 2001. It now runs as an independent self-help support group community for mental health, personality, and psychological issues and is overseen by a group of dedicated, caring volunteers from around the world.
Linear Mode
