Absolutely Sick of Deadbeats Dead Weight

I am absolutely so angry, and this is the state I have been trying to stay out of

and have for almost 18 years. Another one of my, white trash, deadbeat friends

has pushed me to the edge. I absolutely cannot let him get away with this and I

am not friggin' going to. I sit at my home with Stage 4 cancer waiting to expire

as my Oncologist so eloquently puts it. This guy, who I have known since grade

school thinks he can just run all over the top of me. He shows up about 8

months ago at my house, I am not sure how he got here, maybe he was miracled,

here. Otherwise he never calls or comes by, even though he lives less than 15 minutes away.

He had his iPhone turned off for not being able to pay the bill for three months

and asked for $2,200/USD to catch the bill up so it would be reactivated. Swore

he would get it back to me as soon as possible. Then another month later, the

miraculous happens again! He shows up, and has his daughter staying with him.

The dog was sick and needed surgery, is what he told me, he is in need and I am

an animal lover, So the procedure was $1,000/USD and he is like I will call you

and set up up a payment plan, you know I am good for it. I tried to call him to

ask about the money, that is a pittance to me but the principle is a big thing. He

puts his girlfriend on the phone, who is a big lush, and would not even talk to me.

He had worked for the United States Postal Service for ever 20 years. He got fired

for cause because he was not showing up for work. This is just some of the stuff I

have done for this guy. USPS was going to fire him before and I used my

influence as section chief at the national lab at the last job I had overseeing

medical research. Able to help him preserve his job, this time, I am sick and in

home hospice so there was nothing I could do. He goes to work at some new

Amazon facilities they built here, making half of what he did. This is bad on me,

but he wanted to join the Navy when we were younger but did not meet the I.Q,

requirements for entry, I did the kind of thing I would normally never do, I took

the ASVAB entry test battery for him and scored in the top 1%. So, they took him

of course at that point. I should not have done that, it was wrong and but

thought he was my friend.

His second tour of the Navy, he crashed a missile cruiser, that was going through

the Panama Canal, got the Captain fired and got the boot. Again I stepped in,

my sister was working for a boating manufacturer plant/facility and the guy that

was the general manager had retired from the Coast Guard as a cutter Captain. I

know his guy well, as I got to know him once I got back from the army. I asked

him, and he helped him to enter the Coast Guard for one final tour.

His father is now 84 years of age, he made off with over $200,130/USD because

his dad had him on the account. He has rheumatoid arthritis, and the type of

prostate cancer they are sure has spread but the PET imagery is just not good

enough to pick it up where it may be. It's called Bioremedial Staging. So he is

trying to live off of his social security check, barely makes it, so I went to my bank

and arranged for $350/USD per month to be deposited into his account when

his Social Security is, to help the old man get by. I get out when I am sick, and

take him to doctors appointments, because this moron is too busy running the

roads to do it. Now, he will not even talk to me on the phone? When we were in

high school I had much pent up rage because of what had happened to me as a

kid. People used to call this guy Gorilla Grodd minus the genius factor. Well

when I got hold of them they didn't fare too well, only trouble I ever got in

during school. Now he won't even have the decency, or the courage to talk to

me on a phone?

His lush of a girlfriend, is such a brainiac, she got drunk and took off with her

German Shepard in the back of a Dodge truck. She got on the interstate, the

poor dog blew out the back, and was killed, and she hit two other vehicles. I paid

to have that fixed, as it was his only way to get to work. I am getting very angry

with this individual, and when I was younger this would not even be a post, he

would be running from me. This is absolutely horrible to have someone you

thought was your friend take such blatant advantage of you. I will still help his

father, it is not his fault, other than maybe he did not deal with him better when

he was younger, Why? oh Why? If my mum were still alive and I did anything

like this at 53 she would still wallop me upside the head.

(((( @16PennyNail ))))

I didn't know you have stage 4 cancer. My heart goes out to you.

Your friend shouldn't be putting you through this either well or not.

Dump his sorry ***... and the gf, too... (the poor dog!)

Let go of the anger, if you can... it's not going to serve you well to hold on to the anger.

Post here and let it out...

You need to find a way to die in a healed state... with a sense of wholeness...

Some people are bad, some are ill, some are disordered, and some people are just too dumb.

This isn't someone who is competent enough to see or feel the effects of his actions.

You're swimming upstream on this one, and actually working against the forces of natural selection.

It might be time to just let this one go and look after your own peace.

I wish you peace. I really, really do.

RDMercer