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Default May 11, 2024 at 03:05 PM
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Sorry to hear that. I can’t leave my husband because of finances unfortunately. I wish that I could.
If that's the case I guess it's best to just distance yourself from him as much as you can physically and emotionally. Opening up and being shot down hurts more than just keeping it to yourself and finding other ways to get that out (find some other type of support network whether that be a friend, a therapist, or a support group). If it's possible work on getting on the track to financial independence. If it gets bad to the point you feel you HAVE to leave, you can do it. There are DV programs that will help you get on your feet without relying on him.

He obviously doesn't have a genuine connection to you, so I wouldn't act like you do to him.

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Default May 11, 2024 at 05:03 PM
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I agree with what you said. I have seen a few ads tyat require people to be outgoing & bubbly for office jobs in my area.

To me it feels good like it’s discrimination. I’ll always oass on those ads.
Some jobs might require you to be outgoing due to nature of the job or company’s expectations. I don’t see it as discrimination. I am tune deaf. If job requires you to sing or play music, I don’t feel discriminated. I know it’s who I am so this job is not for me.
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Default May 11, 2024 at 05:08 PM
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If your husband is abusive and you don’t have a good relationship, yet cannot leave, then the best course of action is to distance yourself. Keep it to a minimum. Who cares what cologne he uses. Less you talk to him, better it is. Live your life. Until you can leave
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Default May 12, 2024 at 02:57 AM
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Sorry to hear that. I can’t leave my husband because of finances unfortunately. I wish that I could.
If you see and know that he is abusive but can't leave due to finances right now, I think it may help to learn how to cope with it and manage it versus trying to change his behavior and treatment of you. That won't change.

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