Family Love, The Gift That Just Keeps On Giving

People tell me I am intelligent, though I am a big dummy, and I keep falling for it. I rid myself of my mum's family via restraining orders and electronic locks on the doors. I have a Hospice home health nurse here around the clock now. They send them away if they show up.

Last night, my mum's oldest half-sister called me on my cellphone. I don't see many people now, so I am lonely to the maximum degree. The caller ID identified her out of hope for no other reason. I answered, and she was on one of her rants at me. I react to these as I did when I was in a firefight in the military.

I just sat there and numbly took it, but it was the usual junk.

1. I have no right to exist.
2. Mum should have driven to Canada and had me aborted from Germany somehow.
3. I am just like my father and was destined to be worthless.
4. The whole universe shed a tear when I entered into it.
5. The only reason I ever had any success was because of fate and luck.
6. I am wasting my time with my core beliefs as they are made up. Which is proof positive of how dimwitted I am.

It went on for about a half hour, and I just listened. Engaging her in an argumentative sense would make it worse. I could have hung up the phone, but for some reason, I just didn't. She is now in violation of the restraining order if I call and report it, and one of the Manchurian Candidates who was here on duty for nursing heard a great deal of it.

Of course, there would be phone records, and she would be jailed for seventy-two hours. She is now eighty-four, which makes me not want to throw that card. The remaining of Mum's side of the family is something. I guess blocking her phone calls will be next.

I don't know what I ever did to these people to get attacked in such a manner. I took care of her husband while he was home, dying from bone cancer with all kinds of complications from Type I diabetes. It is getting to where I dread waking up in the morning. I am not mad; I am just stuck with a profound sadness.












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You did nothing to deserve that.

A decent person would not speak to you that way. It's indicative of a character flaw on her part, but you probably know that already You're just the easy target, who isn't the actual target.

I wish, for your sake, that she had the sense to be ashamed of herself, because she should be. But lack of shame is a pretty big indicator of a toxic personality.

I'm so very sorry that happened to you. It says a lot about your character that you are thinking of not reporting her. You are in the right, and a good person, if you do choose to report her.

Sending lots of hugs and prayers your way.

Holy carp. What is wrong with people. Was she drunk? I cant imagine someone doing that sober.

Her name is Shirley, and she has always been extreme. The family always says that when she does this stuff, it is just Shirley being Shirley. I think their tolerance of her behavior is almost as impaired as what she does. She is mean and combative with everyone, and she always has been. They say some are high on life, and she is drunk on spite and hatred.

Your aunt does not deserve for anyone to listen to a rant like that. I realize that loneliness can make us receptive to some very dubious human contact. However, nothing good will come from rewarding her by providing her with an audience to hear her out. It kind of signals to her that this kind of rant is acceptable. You don't want to be complicit in encouraging abusive behavior. She totally deserves to be hung up on.