Finally pushed back on my friend

My friend is a wallower. She likes to complain. I do too. But her complaining is starting (perhaps for a while) to reach a toxic point and I don't know if continuing to talk to her is helping or hurting her.

So I pushed back a little last night and told her that everyone wants to complain from time to time but, she has to make progress and try to move on.. and find ways of coping. She just circles back to her victimhood constantly.

She continues to look for validation in the workplace and I have told her that is not going to happen. She knows it.. and yet.. she continues to feel it is owed. It isn't. She is taking care of her elderly parents and I know it is hard but, she has far more help than I did.

I gave her the books that helped me when I could not change my circumstance and only my mindset. I hope she takes them. On every talking point she is wrong and it is starting to get on my nerves.

Many friends of hers have dropped her suddenly. Staring to think that is the way we are going to end up.

Secretly at work I have changed a few things up so I am not as dependent on her for work anymore. Honestly I did it so she could have more time at work to get her work done and work on herself. But she isn't doing that... so it also helps with my dependance on her to get my job done.