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My name is Brian.
My fiancée is bipolar. We are planning on getting married soon, but we have a serious problem that I need help with. We are 100% committed to each other and ready to start our lives together, but she has a major fear of change. I've studied bipolar and I'm aware of this issue, and greatly sympathise with her problem. However, it seems to be a roadblock in our progress. Everytime she gets the courage to move in with me, fear takes over and she backs out at the last minute. This has happened several times over the last year. As I am aware of the issues bipolar people have, I have been very patient, but we need help. What advice can you give her that might help her make the final push to move in and begin our lives together? I love her and am willing to help in any way possible. Her name is Genevieve, and if you post a response, I will direct her to this forum and your answers. Thank you in advance! |
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I am no doctor, but first this that comes to mind: do not move together. Do everything like you live together, until she does the move by herself and not as a response to your push.
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She might not need or want help and her not wanting/not being ready to move in together might have nothing to do with having bipolar disorder.
Plenty of people with bipolar disorder live with their partners so honestly I don’t think it’s a feature of the disorder, it’s not common. Perhaps her doubts are due to something else We total strangers cant really tell someone we don’t know to move in with a man. When are you getting married and how long you’ve been engaged or knew each other? |
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@brian10x, does you fiancee plan on moving in with you after you are married? What are your marriage plans? Perhaps she wants to wait? Is she more traditional? Maybe a candid conversation about what is holding her back would help? I agree that it cannot be forced, but it's odd since she does plan on marrying you.
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sorry, but she's the only one who can seek help or make that decision, we can't do that for her
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