Reset Support!

So the biggest, most embarrassing thing that could happen- DID and it was like a switch for me that something has to change. My partner and I had a dispute at a family get together which NEVER happens because we try and keep it private and unfortunately, we were having some drinks and things felt wayyy too loose and just literally tears and **** hit the fan and if you can imagine your family being there and the most shameful argument/ reaction happened; I am still trying to get over this and figure out how to not guilt myself through the entire thing, worrying about what my family thinks now.

Have you ever had just every emotion pour out of you at the wrong time and place? Like I am just high with anxiety about the whole thing- I just have no other safe space to vent this out to.

Leading into the root of our issues:
My partner and I have been very very much struggling with connectivity and communication. It has become way to much of an emotional overload that I feel like it's constant animosity between us, triggered easily, ultimatum words, and just pure frustration. Leading obviously to a lack of physical/ emotional connection; anyone else just feel on completely different wave lengths!!?
I am reaching out because I am just stuck in my own head, we both have stressors, which doesn't help the situation because we both are very emotionally heightened people that feed off each other. But at the end of the day we are in love and want to be together. I just don't know how to reset and get back on a healthy communication path; any suggestions?

Maybe seek out an outstanding, very qualified marriage counselor?

I am not good at this because I got so fed up I left cause I had no desire to stay & work anything out after 33 years of dealing with him.....but I know when both love each other things can be worked through but sometimes it does take a neutral outsider in therapy to help

Thank you; I appreciate the non judgement too

If it’s too hard, with a lot of arguments, and too much work there’s a compatibility issue. Plain and simple. It does take some work but shouldn’t be a constant struggle. If it is, cut ties.