Dod I do anything wrong? Sick dad told my husband that he no longer wants to talk to

My dad has prostrate cancer & is going through chemotherapy now. He recently moved into an assisted living facility. I wasn’t told where he would move to.

Anyways, for context, I’ll include everything from the start. He’d answer the phone almost every time I called him.

We were never close to each other. He is a narcissist & mentally & emotionally abusive too.

He never respected me or my boundaries, so I kept my distance from him for years. Despite all of that, I was upset to hear that my mom & my sister left him in a filthy house for a week and a half.

There was human feces on the floor as well as blood from him. He uses a walker. He has a hard time getting up too. I wasn’t there. My husband saw how disgusting the house was when he we t there on a business trip.

My mom & my sister moved out with my sisters latest boyfriend. My mom eventually returned to the house. They had a big fight.

They didn’t even call him or check up on him. No one did. Only a social worker stopped by.

I don’t understand why he didn’t move out sooner. Maybe he didn’t want to be away from my mom & my sister?

Anyways, I didn’t hear from him for over a week. So I got worried & called the local police to do a wellness check.

My sister & my mom blocked my number years ago. They are both very self absorbed & abusive to me too

My mom has always favored my sister & she probably blocked me on my moms phone

She has a paranoid delusional disorder. She stopped talking to me after I yelled at her for bring a bad mother & how she never loved me as she does everything for my sister & nothing for me. All she ever did was put me down & criticize me.

Her ego couldn’t handle the truth so she ignored me instead if apologizing to me.

So I couldn’t call them or any relatives. I did call my uncle who lives in the same town, but he is mean & he didn’t really want to talk to me much.

That’s my moms brother. So the officer told me where he’s staying as my mom told him that information.

I then called the facility & they couldn’t give me any information due to HIPPA laws. They couldn’t even tell me if he was there .

Tbe lady who answered the phone was rude She hung up on me. Before she did, she said that I need permission from whoever has power of attorney. I thi my sister had power of attorney.

No one tells me anything, so idk. So I told her that no one has told me anything & that since my mom & my sister blocked me, I can’t find put who has power of attorney.

I called the manager & complained about her but I doubt that anything was done.

So my dad called my husband the other day & told him that I was bothering gim & that he was mad that I did a wellness check & mad that I even mentioned my sisters name.

They are both extremely protective of her despite her being a career criminal & a user loser who has lived at home on & off since she was 18 years old She is now 47 years old.

She hooks up with guys, then the relationship ends in a year or two as she’s bipolar & unmedicated. Then she ends up moving back home again.

She is abusive & violent too as she assaulted me & an ex boyfriend in the past

She is very good at manipulating my parents. She might be influencing them & committing elder abuse too.

So even though we have no real relationship, it does hurt to ne cut off just for showing concern.

What’s worse is that my jerk husband thinks that I shouldn’t have conducted the wellness check or called the facility.

He told me that I should’ve talked to him first. He said that the people at the facility think that you’re cuckoo now, ugh.

He was so nasty & he told me it’s my fault that my nasty mom & sister blocked me.

I told him to call my dad & explain to him that I was worried about him What if he fell or died?

Did I do anything wrong? What would you have do e if you were me?

Right now I just give up on him. I moztly have given up on him, but I won’t bothet calling him anymore as be is to weird, secretive, abusive & frustrating to deal with as well as nasty & rude.

I feel like I never had a real family which makes me upset, angry, depressed, unloved, broken & lonely too.

Hi @jesyka - I am sorry that your dad did not accept your invitation to mend the fences so to speak and smooth things over. You made a good effort.

How are things going with your husband? Do you have any kids?

CANDC

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