[tinkerbellchick]

Yes I know no sibling ever wants to share a room but this has just gone way to far for me. My sister had foot surgery a cupple weeks ago and everything is fine but she is the most demanding person i've ever met. She's like get this do that no please or thank you. Which drives me crazy. She's to busy giving herself a pitty party and feeling sorry for herself that she is more than capable of doing things herself. She complains that no one knows what she's going though which is a complete lie because me and my twin sister have been there done that we both had foot surgery on both feet so we know what she's going through. But my main qustion is how do I live with her. I mean I know she doesent like being on crutches but no one does but that doesent mean you have to complian 24/7 does it?? So my real question is first how do I live with her? How can I get her to relize that she can do things and clean up after herself becase i'm a very big neat freak and she never cleans up after herself....I hate things being mesy and disorginized expecially when i'm sharing space with someone else its even more important to me to have it very very very very clean and very very very very very very very orginized otherwise it gets mesy to fast and disorginized and theirs no boundraries set you wouldnt have your space. So how do 2 very differnt personalities and differnt ideas live together??
Thanks so much for your time,

[Rose3]

She does not have to complain so much.
Tell her that you know it hurts, but you don't want to listen to her complaining all the time. And if the pain is worse than tolerable, then maybe she would be advised to speak to her doctor about it.
Explain to her that you do expect her to clean up after herself.
Think about what you consider to be reasonable - in terms of what you will and will not do, then let her know.

[tinkerbellchick]

We have all told her that but she just keeps complaining
she has her medicine she can take for the pain but sometimes she forgets to take it so thats her own fault
i have told her that i'm not her personal maid and just becasuse i need it clean and orginized and dont like things on the floor i will not pick up her stuff every day......
she just makes me angry
arghh

[Perna]

I'm a complainer, often it is just how I cope with my stress and anxiety.

First, I would not do anything for her without the please and thank you, see if you can't motivate her/get her to notice and motify her complaining a little in that way.

It can be hard when people have different ideas of how to live. I try to keep myself centered on what sort of person I want to be, personally, regardless of what other people want. Do you want to learn (yes learn) to be a helpful person? Would you like someone to help you stay neat and comfy when you don't feel well? Nevermind whether anyone else does or doesn't help you, what kind of person do you want to be? If you are cleaning up, it doesn't hurt to pick up a few more things; think of the exercise you're getting and what it is teaching you and how it is helping you learn patience and compassion/kindness? Resentment (telling her you're not her personal maid) is not helpful to you and will become a habit if you let it?

[tinkerbellchick]

I completely understand what your saying...
I honestly dont have a problem picking up a few extra things that doesent bother me at all but what bothers me that i don't get the thanks that I deserve for doing so much...not just cleaning up my own room but i cleaned my sisters room while she's in europe i do the dishes all the time i sweep and mop the floor vacume and clean the bathroom...i would just like the thanks i deserve for doing all thease things without being asked to do them.

I am deffinitaly trying to learn paticence with other but honest to god i am the most impatient person you will ever meet in your life. it is a big flaw that i have...if someone is doing something slow and i can get it done faster and more effiect i'll tell them to leave and i'll do it myself....thats the kind of person i am.

You would think after having 3 foot surgerys and being on crutches on and off for a year (mostly on) that i would have learned paticece but that didnt really come to me.

Thanks so much for helpin me Perna

[Doh2007]

I would put on a set of headphones and try to ignore her.