Intimacy #2

Before I start this, I just want to thank the members who have generously shared their wisdom and insight in the previous post.

i feel awful. i feel resentful of my wife and the fact that i have given up my job for her and her agoraphobia. i am now faced with her anger at my perceived inability to bring her pleasure, to bring her my passion for her in the bedroom.
i feel like packing my bags with two or three nights of clothing and whatnot, a few value (including some from my marriage) and taking my doggie to my sister's house. I even have plans, though i might not take them out, to file for separation and , i suppose, a divorce.
I'm tired, furious that my wife throws these emotionally laden darts at me and i don't know what to do with them. They're firm, her words are, very precise, though i don't believe

that they are entirely truthful, or fair.
even before i quit my job, my wife was demanding of my time, wanting to know

where i am and what time i would be home. thought she let me go to an occasional

function, my job required more than simply going to these functions. it required my

participation or attendance beyond 5 p.m., the so-called end of my shift.

now she's basically attacking me for not bringing passion back to the marriage.
"You've lost absolutely all sense of passion for me," she said Sunday afternoon.

"You don't have that passion for me, FOR ME.
(her emphasis) that you used to have. I've shown you how to bring me pleasure. Your excuse used to be that you were abused. then you said it was due to your lack of experience with women. Now you say you'[re still 'working on it' (the answer to why i can't bring her pleasure)."

i want visitation rights for my cat and other dogs.

Hi Jim;
No kids involved then? You are in between a rock and a hard place. Seems like nothing you do will be enough to please her.

Can I be so bold as to ask if maybe she is trying to get rid of you? If you can't do anything right then why should you stick around?

Have you tried or suggested marriage counseling? Has she been evaluated by her Doctor? Is she depressed?

I have been married to the same woman for 35+ years and even though I still fail to live up to what she wants me to be at times, she still loves me, why, I don't know but, she lets me stay. Anyway, I hope you can reconsile this in some way and perhaps some time away will help to gat her attention concerning the seriousness of this situation.

Good luck,

I have no idea what to say, but I hope you find a happier future either with or without her

I am on the same end your wife is. it is sad that no matter how much either of us love our spouses it doesn't seem to be enough. I would love to have that hot passion back in my marriage too but I think maybe part of it for the women is seeing too much television. we see the passion in soap operas and love stories and we crave that. I know I do but last week I realized that is not I repeat NOT real life. yes we start out that way but it doesn't last, sadly. I hope we all realize that is just not real.
I feel your saddness and frustration. please try to open up and talk to her. don't let it split you up.