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Jul 04, 2008 at 03:36 PM
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Over the past 4 months my room mate and I have spent a lot of time together. For the past couple of months he has taken me out to eat lunches and dinners and we always had a great time. Weekends we always barbecue, play darts, swim, etc. Last weekend it became more intimate then eating together. Then he got a call that his ex (who he was still close with) died. She was in the hospital very ill for about 2 weeks. It was very sad. When this happen he basically shut down what we started and asked me to wait until the funeral was over because he was having a hard time dealing with it. I understood that and still do. And I think that is patient of me, something I am usually not. I really did not want a boyfriend because it seems I am always the one with my heart dangling! But I really like him. The funeral is Monday. I am not planning on pouncing immediately to find out what is going on between he and I. I am really hoping he will bring up the subject like he said he would. But the way things go for me I am thinking he will not. I hope that is just insecurity speaking! I am also thinking that if he did not want to continue a relationship with me he could have just said that instead of making me wait to hear it. He has said all along he wants a woman in his life, whether it is me or not remains to be seen for sure. I guess I am writing this to get it all off my chest since I dont really have anyone else to talk to about it, but also I always appreciate the advise or comments I get here.
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Jul 04, 2008 at 07:01 PM
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being there for him right now is the best thing for him
hanging out like you were already doing is probly the best thing for you both at the moment if he doesnt bring it up-if you feel its time for u to then i think that would be just fine i say that because you deserve to know if it will work out between u too so u live your life without waiting needlesly on someone you both deserve the best and after a loss likee this- just being there for him is whats best best wishes __________________ The past is behind me, The future is unknown, and the present is all I have |
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Grand Poohbah
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Location: Michigan
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Jul 04, 2008 at 11:42 PM
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I say just let him know you are there for him, but let him have some space to sort his thoughts out..
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