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Sep 21, 2008, 05:29 AM
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My fiance and i is in a long distance relationship for 3yrs already. He was in a previous relationship with a girl his family love sooo much. They even forced him to marry the girl which he filed for a divorce 6 months after. We were planning to get married a year ago but the girl don't want to sign the divorce papers and his grandmother died of heart attack when he announced to everybody he's divorcing the girl to marry me. He gave majority of his assets to his ex wife just for her to sign the divorce papers, few months after the divorce was finalized but his family is not ready to accept me. Now, the girl uses the family to hate me and get him back. Should i stay and wait until his family accepts me or I should let go of this relationship doomed from the start.
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Sep 21, 2008, 08:40 AM
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They are divorced now right? as bad as I hate to say it hon he is allowing his family to make his life decisions. I am not so sure I would stick around. Tell him it is either you or them. It is time he grows up and makes his own decisions.
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Sep 21, 2008, 08:47 AM
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i strongly agree with bebop. hugs to you (((princess diana)))
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#4
Sep 21, 2008, 08:16 PM
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Yes divorced for a year now..  thanks for the advice bebop...appreciate it a lot. 
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#5
Sep 21, 2008, 08:18 PM
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back iamtwilight ...thanks i need that right now 
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Sep 21, 2008, 08:34 PM
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It sounds like you live in a society other than the U.S. I suspect that in your culture the family is everything. What does your fiance want to do? He knows his parents better than anyone. Can you two marry without his parents' blessing?
It sounds like you have a good grasp of your options. There comes a time when you need to move on. Marriage is hard. It would be nice for you to find a man whose family loves you. You certainly deserve this. Best wishes. |
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Sep 22, 2008, 03:56 AM
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He is a grown man. He should tell his family this as well and act like it. If he is going to let all these "misc" people control his actions you may want to rethink your relationship.
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Sep 22, 2008, 07:18 AM
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Yes, we live in a country where family tradition should be observed. Getting married without the family's blessing is a burden. Also the death of the matriarch in their family is another burden that we have to shoulder. I feel so guilty at times for the difficulties that he have to face for the sake of loving me. I am thankful for his sacrifices but there are times that i feel so alone. There are times that I want to break the norm but we cant. He can't
Divorce is not a joke. I for one don't want to break a marriage but he did it for my sake. I love him dearly for that. But i am also guilty for that. I don;t know i am really confused. I love him, he loves me but the people around us are not happy. *sigh*
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#9
Sep 22, 2008, 08:02 PM
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I feel great sympathy for you and your fiance. Would it be possible to sit down with your parents and ask them for help?
If he left his wife for you, it might just take some time for them to get used to the idea. I hope things work out for you both. |
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Sep 23, 2008, 07:28 AM
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This is an old thread. You probably should not post your reply to it, as the original poster is unlikely to see it.|
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