[myoasis89]

Am I weird? I get along with people and I'll go out but I don't want close friends...and I feel I don't need any. I don't feel lonely. The only person I really go to is my bf or my parents. My bf makes me happy and we love spending time with one another. I guess I find it stressful having people in my life. I only like ot take care of one person at a time. Like with my bf, I'm content taking care of him and him doing the same in return. I have a job I go to college...I'm content. Why is it that people always emphsize that you need tons of friends to be happy and go out all the time?,

[gimmeice]

I don't think that you are weird, some people just don't need a lot of friends and really as long as you are happy I don't see why you would need to change anything.

[Doh2007]

I agree with gimmeice.

I found this book and it changed my life.

http://www.amazon.com/Please-Underst...2737426&sr=8-2

If you are weird, so am I. I don't have friends really. I do "know" some people from my support group & will get together with them when they initiate it, but otherwise it is easier for me to be alone...

[iamtwilight]

aww oasis, you are not weird! see you have a lot of people like you here =) i join the club!

i, too, can only focus on one person (my partner) and that's ok if you fulfill each other's needs.

=)

however, a bit of outside contact is good so you won't get bored of your bf or start to take him for granted. it's good that you see your parents too. that is a change.

having masses of friends and acquaintances is overrated!

(i tried to find a protest smiley, but couldn't find one - the sheep will do )

twilight

[multipixie9]

(((((( myoasis89))))))

people are different in styles and needs. some people need larger amounts of social interaction to feel happy and complete and others need a small number of deep friendships to feel content with their life.

my daughter goes out to be with people and it relaxes her. i smile and believe her but i am the exact opposite. going out winds me up tight and total silence and being alone are very restful to me. balance is always key - extremes are seldom healthy.

enjoy your form of weirdness - its probably fine as long as you do not become so deeply involved with one or two people that you can't ever admit anyone else into this small circle of friends

leslie/pixies

[beadlady29-old]

u moat definitely are not weird!!!!!!!

can we jump on the bandwagon wiht iamtwilight?

we definitely agree that freinds are overrated.............we do not have many freinds IRL but maybe for diff. reasons...
we dotn trust no one...........we has a few freidns not real close because we has cauhgt them lieing to us and stuff that tells us to keep uor distance.....HATES wehn people do this to us...........so tiered of people usign us, etc......

so, anyway, we haev learned to be content with our own complany and our constant companion, Boo (svc. dog). we seekout the company of others once in awhile, but for the most part, haev always been a loner.

we efinitely understadns your lack of need to haev a bunch of freinds........
bead does also not feel that a bunch of freinds are a necessary part of lief.

thanx for shareing........u ( and us, apparetnly) not are alone

beadlady

[iamtwilight]

beadlady, come on in!


twilight

[myoasis89]

Thanks for the support guys. I feel a lot better...now I know I am not alone