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Junior Member
Member Since Dec 2004
Location: Indiana
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Dec 26, 2004 at 08:11 PM
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I was looking for some emotional support. My husband is about to file for divorce because he says he is unhappy but he is unwilling to go to marriage counseling. He informed me of his unhappiness about 1 month ago after I found out he has been seeing another woman for about 2 months. He has professed his love to her, she has professed hers even though both are married. We have been married for yr and half. I don't know how to move on with all this hurt but I know that he is unwilling to do counseling becuase he has this new woman who makes him "happy". Please, any advice?
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Grand Poohbah
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Location: Arizona
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Dec 27, 2004 at 12:56 AM
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I'm sorry I don't have any advice,since I have never been married, but we are all here for you! *hugs*
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Wise Elder
Member Since Jul 2004
Location: PA USA
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Dec 27, 2004 at 10:10 AM
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Yes it's painfull now, but be thankful you found out what that he has problems with commitment, before you've been with him longer, also let the other women know to be careful if he left you for another he may do the same to her.
Angie __________________  A good day is when the crap hits the fan and I have time to duck. |
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Member Since Jan 2004
Location: ontario,canada
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Dec 27, 2004 at 11:37 AM
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I'm so sorry. This happened to me in 2003. I just had to accept it and move on with my own life.
I was devastated at the time but eventually, I realized that I did deserve better than what he had been giving me, and was able to pull myself together. I wish I could give you better advice. I know it is so painful. All I can say is that you'll be ok. Be good to yourself, allow yourself to feel the emotions and celebrate your strength as you deal with the pain and move forward. I'm sorry this is happening to you. hugs Angel __________________ Oh, my glass house just came crashing down and cut me all to ribbons... |
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Member Since Dec 2004
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Dec 27, 2004 at 11:25 PM
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It is so much better to find out now. That surely doesn't lessen the pain. But it is so much easier to move on with your life without children involved or an investment of many many years. Another door always opens........
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Junior Member
Member Since Dec 2004
Location: Indiana
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Dec 28, 2004 at 12:23 AM
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Thanks for the support. I am just having so much trouble with this. I am only 23 so I am still young, but it hurts that I was with him throughout college and planned me entire life with him, including law school which he now refuses to help pay. It's a shame because I really thought he was the one, the one that wouldn't walk out on me. This whole thing came not only a shock to me but everyone around me because they thought they saw the love that he had for me. It just sucks and hurts that my life was taken from me at this time because he has to figure things out. What makes it worse is that it has been about a month and he is filing tomorrow which means by March, I'll be divorced. I just hate all the hurt that I have suffered through this and wish I could just move on without him. I guess there is something more out there for me and that scares the hell out of me.
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Dec 28, 2004 at 01:00 AM
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love is a choice, people control love, love doesn't control people, i hope evertyhing works out for you <3
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Junior Member
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Location: Indiana
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Dec 30, 2004 at 10:53 PM
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So all you out there divorced already, can you give me any advice on what life is going to be like through this divorce process. He keeps telling me that he wants to be friends, like I can really be friends with a man that treated me like he did? No, I can't be friends, but I hate that he threw away our friendship because he didn't care. I want to go out and meet other people, yet I can't because I need to deal with all of this pent up anger and he's off having the time of his life while I sit here and mourn the loss of my friendship with him. What the heck am I doing to myself?
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Location: Northern California
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Dec 31, 2004 at 12:44 AM
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What is life going to be like after your divorce? Only you can answer that one. I can tell you how I have felt and feel. It is a loss. Like the loss of a loved one, only they are still alive and for some reason they dont like you anymore. I was married for 10 years.
Its been a little over a year now and it still hurts. I am still sad at times and miss the good moments we shared and our pets. (I did'nt get visitation rights). I think mourning is a good thing as long as its not long term. For you, at least it was not a long period of time. Good luck think good thoughts and be good to yourself. Joe __________________ "Life is what you make it, at least that's what the people say and if I cant make it through tomorrow, I'd better make it through today." (Eric Clapton) |
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Location: south mississippi
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Dec 31, 2004 at 05:19 AM
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What is life going to be like after your divorce? Only you can answer that one. I can tell you how I have felt and feel. It is a loss. Like the loss of a loved one, only they are still alive and for some reason they dont like you anymore. I was married for 10 years. Its been a little over a year now and it still hurts. I am still sad at times and miss the good moments we shared and our pets. (I did'nt get visitation rights). I think mourning is a good thing as long as its not long term. For you, at least it was not a long period of time. Good luck think good thoughts and be good to yourself. Joe </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> I agree with Joe, life is going to be however you make it, the pain will be there for quite awhile, as far as getting out and meeting people, you will know when its the right time for that. give yourself time to pick yourself up and rebuild your heart. I am so very sorry for your pain. I know how bad it hurts. __________________ Tonya (Brokenwing) my indian name |
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Wise Elder
Member Since Jul 2004
Location: PA USA
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Dec 31, 2004 at 09:54 AM
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Sweetie check with an attorney, if he's filing he should have to pay some support and/or for your schooling.
Angie __________________ A good day is when the crap hits the fan and I have time to duck. |
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