[myoasis89]

does anyone know what makes a good friendship? What ar ehte fundamentals and the building blocks?

acceptance of one another.. respect for each other's beliefs and values even if they are different

set boundaries, love, common interest, committed time to each other, committed to change... during the span of the friendship - if it spans years and years - people change .. and.. friendship.. will have to absorb these changes.. to be continued

[Junerain]

Mysterious things determine whether a friendship can work between two people, yet I believe personality is key, whether it is two congruent personalities, or two very different ones that work together to compliment each other. To me it is more fascinating which friendships end and why, whether it is external, a situation that has come up that cannot be ignored, a conflict or fight, or internal, yes values, or personality, when combined together create misunderstanding, lack of trust, or hurt.

[myoasis89]

Originally Posted by Junerain

Mysterious things determine whether a friendship can work between two people, yet I believe personality is key, whether it is two congruent personalities, or two very different ones that work together to compliment each other. To me it is more fascinating which friendships end and why, whether it is external, a situation that has come up that cannot be ignored, a conflict or fight, or internal, yes values, or personality, when combined together create misunderstanding, lack of trust, or hurt.

wow that is very deep and insightful!...merci beaucoup

[digdug]

As my life has changed so much over the past few years, I've found myself losing lots of friends. It's not that any amimosity has built up, but when you change a lot as a person you tend to lose a lot of people that aren't changing with you.

It's strange when a friendship ends. It's not something where you have to make the "break-up" official, like in a relationship. But it's weird when you're trying to hang out with someone and you realize it isn't "working" anymore. Nobody has to say anything...you just slowly drift apart. It's just the way life is sometimes.