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Nov 10, 2008, 04:28 PM
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My daughter and her husband, both educators, him a headmaster at a private school and her a 5th grade teacher are interviewing for jobs at an International School in Estonia. Estonia is adjacent to Finland on the Baltic Sea. Also adjacent to the Soviet Union, or Russia (what do they call themselves now?). Daughter and hubby are excited; have had one video conference interview and scheduled for another this week. I can't really share their enthusiasm, though I've known they were looking at International Schools.
I am feeling fearful, and even a bit selfish, just wanting them to stay put! They are currently only three hours away from me. I do realize, that when I was young, I allowed my parents to reign me in close to them here in WV, though I longed to travel, move elsewhere. I don't want to be like that toward them! But I'm also strongly tempted to voice my concerns to my daughter. What is your advice? Love Patty |
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Nov 10, 2008, 05:07 PM
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Estonia?! My girls have teachers that taught there for a few years and they loved it. I think you can do both--voice your concerns and offer support. It's possible to support them and not their decision. But maybe you can do both. Tell them you love them and tell them that for selfish reasons you want them to stay, but you realize what a wonderful opportunity this is. I think they'll appreciate both sentiments.
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Nov 10, 2008, 05:24 PM
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Cantstop...Thanks so much for your feedback! I do know that IF they choose to go there, which looks like may be the case, I will have a good reason to travel, which I've actually never done.
I also got some firsthand feedback from a fellow teacher who knew people from Estonia today. The people he knew loved it there. So that was heartening. Hey, I've even looked into learning their language, though the literature online says that most citizens also speak English. Love Patty |
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Nov 10, 2008, 06:02 PM
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You're welcome! Good luck to you and them. It will be a wonderful experience--for all of you. I think it would be awesome to be able to travel there!
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Nov 10, 2008, 09:01 PM
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((((((((((( seeker ))))))))))))))))))))
I agree with cantstopcrying the only thing that I can add is to tell them that if it doesn't work out they can always move back. 
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Nov 11, 2008, 07:03 PM
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Thank you, Gimmeice,
I really wish they wouldn't have this wanderlust, and just stay put, or move within the USA. But I do have a good relationship with my daughter, and can talk about my feelings openly with her. Last night, on the phone, I told her how I was feeling. I asked her about her husband's parents, and what they thought about this, to which my daughter replied, "Oh, we won't tell them until we've signed the contracts." Mitch's parents are very involved with the twin grandchildren, living only 45 minutes away and spend lots of time with them. They're also both retired, and their main interest seems to be the twins and spending all the time they can with them. I worry what this decision will do to them! though I didn't say that to my daughter. Patty |
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Nov 12, 2008, 11:15 AM
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((((((((((( Patty )))))))))))
I can see where you would have many questions and reservations about this move for your family. It's only natural to be wary and sad that they will be in another country. One thing I try to remember is that nothing is forever. Even when it feels yucky....there are so many options for you all to keep in touch. The world is a much smaller place now than it ever was before. We don't have to wait for snail mail or phone calls....the internet has brought us all so much closer together in that realm. And just think.....you could travel there to visit them. This would be a great time for you to see some of the world that you never thought possible. I, for one never dreamed I would ever get to the UK. That dream did come true for me, and a few times since then also. Never ever did I dare to dream of going to Eastern Europe, but made it to Romania 4 times to my delight! I completely understand your fears and trepidations here....and I'm glad you were able to speak to your daughter about them. It's always good to have open communication  sabby |
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