[Zloppy]

I really really like this girl at school, we are both Juniors in High School and I have liked her for like 3 years. I've told her twice I liked her and asked her out but each time she said no. I can't control and hold it in either I like her so much. The first time she said no, I got extremely depressed. And now this past time (a few days ago) I didn't. I didn't because I was already depressed. so It didn't make a big impact. I took the "How Deep Is Your Love" quiz, even though it is made for actual couples, I took it as if me and her were together and just to see how much this says how I like/love her. I scored a 131. If you have seen that quiz before you know the highest on there is 106 and up which marks Extreme. and below that is 86 - 105 for good and down so on. And I got a 131. And just to compare I tried it as if using another girl who I like, and I got a score that fell into the average category (66 - 85). I am just posting this as a way to help get some of this out and since I like her Soooo much, but yet she doesn't want to go out. She is one of my best friends who is a girl too. So I see her more and it's hard. I have also never asked out any other girl in my life except her too.

Thats all.

[bananasarecool]

((zloppy))
for me guys are just confusing. i dont get them at all. i fall for the wrong ones
so im guessing its the same for you guys with girls.
be a friend. dont let your feelings ruin that friendship, or your life.

you'll look back and laugh at how corny im being one day, promise. ^_^

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[theama]

I would say "move on", but that's something that you can't control. Just try to divert your thoughts to something else whenever you think about her, and give it time. In time, you will move on.

And don't fall into the "friend zone", girls who know that a guy likes them might take advantage of that and use them emotionally. Like, cry on your shoulder about some guy who dumped her. You don't want that.

I know it's such a horrible thing to say, cos I remember being your age and so in love that it hurt, but you are young - and you will fall for many other girls. It's not the end of the world, even though it feels like it is.
Don't let your feelings get in the way of your friendship. I was deeply in love with my childhood best friend, but he was gay - so it could never be. It was torture being around him, but in time - I moved on.

Btw, are you seeing a psychiatrist? Have you gotten a diagnose? Are you on any medication? I don't know how "normal" people respond to having their heart broken, but I got suicidal every time - thank god the medication I'm on right now is working.
It says in your profile that you suspect that you might be bipolar, if that's the case - you should get a psychiatrist, do the SCID-II test and get diagnosed ASAP and begin treatment. You don't have to live in agony.

[Zloppy]

She is not how you described by using me like that. she is the nicest girl I have ever known. I KNOW she would never use me.

[bananasarecool]

so then if your comfortable with just being friends, be that.
remember that she doesnt feel the same way, so you might get hurt but if you believe shes worth keeping as a friend, then do it.
and dont let her use you in any way. it sounds mean, but ive been a ***** so she probably has at some point too.
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