[lattie]

Hi,

I was seeing a guy. We were sexually active. Things happened and its made it very confusing. I believe we are going with friends but he has said and done stuff that condradicts that a lot (to me anyways)

Anywho, when i see him next, i was going to tell him how i feel. he has been making me very confused, how he's been making me feel etc - - But also, that i haven't been myself for a while. I have been under a lot of stress due to work but also have not been well health wise. I was worrying a lot about it.

For over a month and half i've been feeling:
fatigue, dizzy and very lightheaded, weak, heart palpitations, feeling cold for no reason, lethargic, have trouble thinking or concentrating, feeling 'out of it' or like you might pass out, nausea, no appetite and shortness of breath

While i was with him, i was probably very quiet, more than what i am usually, hell, feeling like that i was not in a mood to chat! espically to people i dont know. It was also kind of hard to get in the 'mood' for sex. Since the 'seeing' someone was VERY new to me (hadn't been that way with a guy before) i was nervous as it was.

I also didn't drink alcohol that much, and i think he seemed to notice coz he kept trying to get me to get a drink when we were out. I couldn' have alcohol while feeling that way. Half the time i felt like i was going pass out anyway!


There should be no harm in telling him this right?

Im think that he probably thinks the wrong thing, has the wrong idea or impression of me. It might not make any difference, and it wouldn't if he doesn't care (although he tells me he does - he's acting werid for the last 2 weeks)

It is hard to be bouncy, energetic, lively and chatty when your feeling like that.

theres a couple of health conditions that have been causing these symptoms and are fixable! It just seemed to take forever to get a proper diagonis for it. Ive lost 6kg from this!

thanks

[TheZaxByPass]

What kind of medical conditions? Are they things that people are typically biased against?

Why not tell him? Otherwise he may think that HE'S the reason why you're acting weird. He doesn't need much information since you guys are in the beginning of a relationship/friendship. A simple "hey, sorry if I've seemed out of it lately. I've been recently diagnosed with <insert medical conditions here> and haven't been feeling like myself."

He'll either shrug, (a signal that you should drop it), or he'll ask follow up questions. Be careful to be sensitive to how he's feeling and not to give too much information or to go on too long though.

I'm slightly concerned with his attitudes about your drinking. Was he feeling guilty because you didn't have a drink of any kind or was he pretty specific in trying to get alcohol into you?

[seeker1950]

It sounds to me like you should not be dating right now, much less engaging in a sexual relationship. You need to take care of yourself, get yourself well, and only then consider meeting men. You sound very fragile, and not showing the best judgment about this man or the nature of your symptoms. If you feel you need to remain in contact with him, then tell him NOW about your conditions, and let HIM decide if he wants to still pursue the relationship. Postponing this information and continuing intimacy (not good idea) will only complicate things more.
Patty

[snow]

I am not sure what the condition is. Is this life threatening? If you this this person is significaunt in your life, you may need his help. If it is difficult or scary to say out loud - practice it. He might be there to help -

I have told people about medical conditions, mental health issues, serious stuff. It is difficult but i have found much worth it.