[bridgeboy]

Hi all,
I can't let myself trust other peoples' compliments.

"You are a great person" - they must be just being polite (might be, might not but also might be wrong)

"I'm your T and I'm here to help" - they are getting paid nice money why wouldn't they try to convince me to stay by saying they care

"I really like you" - unless you fail to live up to some expectation and then I'm nothing so why trust something like that?

"thanks" - that's an obvious statement whether they really care or not, just politeness

And even if I trust the honesty of a compliment, I think they are just brainwashed or immature.

And finally if I think it is a sincere, well-reasoned compliment, I just say it isn't true, either out loud or internally.

One exception would be one Patty on here gave me on another thread and it made me cry and helped me get over a relationship disappointment.

But most of the time, everything bounces off and I don't even give a heartfelt thanks for the compliment.

Anybody else experience this or have experience overcoming the barrier?

Thanks,
bb

[snow]

It is ok. I did this for a while. Is it that the compliment could not possibly be true because deep down there is something that cannot accept good things about yourself?

To overcome this I went to therapy. And then i said to myself I will give it a go. I used a lot of things and it helped out - such as telling myself I am a good person, saying good things internally. Try saying I love you internally - do you disagree with yourself? Try positives instead of negatives. There will be ups and downs. Why? Ask these questions.

I know you may have said all of the above things on your post about what I just said but it is true. This changed my life. What you say internally is what you are.

Snow