defective

I feel like because i have depression i am defective and that no one wants me. I had a boyfriend who after i told, 10 mins later texted me and broke it off. my other boyfriend i had, just said that he would marry me, but then decided he wouldn't be happy with me at some point in his life, but wanted to stay friends just in case he couldn't find anything better... is this normal?

welcome to pc . i'm glad you found us.
i have depression, bipolar, etc. in my experiences i have found to protect myself i don't reveal that i suffer from depression to too many people. why? many people just don't understand that we aren't defective or mental, but just people with a chemical imbalance. they just don't get it and it's too difficult to explain.
anyway, why tell them at all? it's like if you had high blood pressure, you wouldn't necessarily go telling people you know. it's just not important.
the same with your depression...as long as you are getting help for this, that's the important thing.
as for the boyfriend, sounds like he's got some twisted thinking...you could probably find someone better!
you're not defective. you are a person with a medical condition. most everyone has some condition at some point in their life. we are not unique or bad. we just are what we are. hope this helps.

I agree with Madisgram-lots of good points made. I know about the rejection by others because I tell them or they find out I'm bipolar. I've had the rejection in intimate&friendly relationships&from total strangers. Like Madisgram said, it's better not to tell. That infuriates me because I feel like I shouldn't have to hide something that is such a big part of my life.
If someone cuts you short because they find out your mental health status-they're not worth your time or effort to be friends. Always feel free to come here&you can PM me anytime

I thought I"d throw in my two cents, and hopefully make you feel better. I also have depression (Or Bipolar, they havent decided) and general anxiety disorder. In my relationship with my boyfriend, I'm the one that feel defective, and I'm always apologizing for him "getting stuck with a crazy girlfriend." It's really awful of me, but the thing is he cares about me and tells me not to be sorry. He helps calm me down when I'm having an anxiety attack and he's there to hug me or talk to me on the phone when I'm feeling depressed. Moral of the story, you should not feel ashamed or defective of who you are, regardless of what that may mean, because the person that you are meant to be with will love you completely just as you are, and they will support you, and if you are sick they will want you and help you to get better, whether its the flu, you broke a leg, or you have a mental illness. In my opinion, distance yourself from negative influences, (especially a boy that just wants to keep you on the back burner as a just in case girl). Find postive, caring people, make a support system, and do things that make you happy; forget the rest.

Best wishes,
Ro

I agree with RomanSunburn-don't be a back burner girl-you'll be waiting your whole life for someone to truly love you if you are the back burner girl. Also, don't just take what you can get-it never works out-I know from experience. The depression is a stick in your spokes, but keep getting up&looking at what you could have done differently&decide whether the person was worth your time in the first place. When you're depressed you have to be extra careful with your heart or you'll always be picking up the pieces-I know-my heart has about 5 million cracks in it from being too trusting and/or investing too much too soon.

Hi, Sarahbarah, and welcome to PC!
So much thoughtful advice here, and all excellent feedback from others, like me, who understand from experience what you are going thru. I also feel that it would be better to at least wait to reveal your experiences with depression. Been there, done that, been rejected...yadda yadda.
Patty