[lxegirl]

i'm so upset about my friends' relationship. i probably posted about this before but he told me more about whats going on and now i'm depressed for him because i don't want for him to hurt the way i did when this happened to me.

his gf is long-ish distance. she's apparently been going out with this guy from her school and he asked her to their prom and she told my friend (her bf) all about it to stay truthful and he's okay with it... my friend trusts her, but he is worried that she doesn't love him anymore. i'm just afraid and scared for him... its a recipe for disaster...i dont want him to hurt, i dont know what to tell him.Thinking of him makes me think of what pain he would have to go through if she breaks up with him for this other guy...i dont want him to go through that. what do i do?

[Direction]

I'm not sure there is much you can do other than to be supportive...especially when he learns like you did that long distance relationships are very very difficult to maintain.

[lxegirl]

Originally Posted by Direction

I'm not sure there is much you can do other than to be supportive...especially when he learns like you did that long distance relationships are very very difficult to maintain.

Its not only that. Its the fact that he's set up to getting his heart broken.

[Direction]

Well that could be true...or not...that's kind of my point we don't know...all you can do is be supportive. And if things don't turn out you continue to be supportive...it is something we all have to learn...My high school sweet heart and I made it to the summer of my freshman year in college...It was a tough year on our relationship...

[eskielover]

The bottom line is that you can't run someone else's relationships. They are what they are & what will happen will happen. First off, recipes don't always turn out like we think they will, & if they do, there is probably NOTHING you could say to change his thinking in the first place.

All you can really do is be there & be supportive if it does happen. Honestly, the hurts that we encounter in our growing up relationships are learning experiences & they aren't anything that will destroy us....but are what we build on to make future relationships better.

If you try to control his life at this point....you will probably only drive him away....if you end up consoling him if something does happen, it might only bring you more together (if that's what you might be hoping?)