[JayL]

Should i try to contact someone i haven't seen in 8 years just to say hi and see them again. I know that i may risk loosing the feeling i have had for her since i first saw her but I also feel like it may open doors otherwise left closed. I don't know if i love her or am infatuated as discussed earlier but i do know that i feel something amazing for her and we hardly know each other. Especially since it's been so many years. But i hate to let this go when i know i could at least make an effort. What i'm really wondering is how would you feel if someone you dated long ago suddenly apeared in your life again by getting a letter or maybe even seeing them again?

[Wants2Fly]

I've tried contacting past loves -- I want the past to go back. They don't. Hasn't been so good for me.

[Lorelei]

Hi,

Well I think it depends on what type of relationship you shared and/or how it ended. If you were really good friends or lovers and you went your seperate ways on good terms, I suggest you try it.

Good Luck!

Many Blessings,
Lorelei

[JayL]

I want to see her again with out a doubt, but i'm worried about how i will apear to her since we last saw each other. I want things to go well and i feel like i need to get some major things worked out with myself and things rolling more as far as independece and getting on the right path to where i want to go career wise.
We left off on neither negative nor positive terms but at the same time i let her know that i still wanted to be with her and explained my feeling for her the best i could at the time. Unfortionately she never responded, and i moved near the end of the school year. Haven't see or herd from her since then that i'm aware of. Anyway i'll keep working on things and see how they end up. thanks J>L

Hey Jay, I think that the career thing is just an effort to impress her. Don't take this the wrong way but if she's gonna love you it should be for who you are, not what you've accomplished. To be honest, my advise is two part.

1. If you really want to see her again then don't wait. Keep working on the positive improvements that you're working on cause they are great and you should be proud of yourself for them, but don't let them decide for you when the time is right. Your heart should decide that.

2. If you contact her, hope for the best but prepare for the worst. Make sure that you're ready to face the fact that she may be seeing someone else now or that she may share your feelings. I'm really not trying to rain on your parade and I'm sorry if I did. I think that it's a good thing to see someone again, especially if there was no closure or if there's a chance to re-ignite an old flame. I'd just hate to see you fall into the trap that I fell into. I did the same thing a few years back and I made the mistake of just assuming that things would go according to my plan and I ended up crushed. Just something to think about.

I guess over all I'd say go for it. I hope that this advise is taken as it was meant, cause it wasn't meant to offend. You seem to have a good head on your shoulders so take the advise you get from here with a grain of salt and use your best judgement. Take care and good luck.

ryan