in love after only a week??

Hi. Can you be in love with someone after only a week? My boyfriend told me he loved me less than a week into the relationship. Could he possibly love me??
He keeps telling me how much he loves me and we've only known each other for 9 days!! I like him a lot and don't want to lose him but i'm not sure if i'm in love or not, how can you tell??

I had an ex who was like that and I didn't believe it as how could he.... we had only been going out 1 week.

However I find when I am manic I "fall" in love VERY easily less than a day and I am "in love"

I would think he isn't really in love with you its just that you make him feel at ease and he feels like he can be him with you.... does that make sense?

Love? No.
Lustful and enamored? Yes.

You two surely have touched one another on some level/s. The word "love" is thrown around so quickly, easily, and is based upon so many different levels. Who's to say what a person honestly means when they say that they are in love?

To me, love means long-term devotion. Through thick, hard times and easier light times. You grow and change ~ but as time passes, you both continue to work to maintain closeness. It isn't easy. Especially in today's environment. As we grow (and age) we recognize that everyone does have flaws. Everyone! Some flaws are easier to accept than others, and we differ on the types of flaws we're willing to accept.

For example, we all react to stress. Some people drink, some eat, some blow-up, some use sex, spend money, some withdraw, some put themselves down, some work out, etc. All of us do some or all of these things to different extents when we're stressed out. Developing healthy levels of activities to react to stress isn't easy. How likely are you to overlook and/or accept your love's stress reaction?

Hope that wasn't too deep for you. Just my thoughts.

Takes me like 3 months to know if I even want to be friends with someone. I need for that time to pass mostly to see if they get on my nerves, have some kind of major flaw that isn't immediately obvious, but that I don't want to live with for the rest of my life (I might be a little slow!). AND that they bring a lot of GOOD stuff in - am I still fascinated by the person after 3 months? Then a sitcom char had a 3-month rule before she would become intimate that her friends teased her about on the show, but makes sense to me! Diana Ross's daughter, maybe? Anyway, point is not how HE feels, but how do YOU feel, and action proceeds on YOUR terms. What's the rush? Kind of a red flag for me.

Agreed.

Puppy love...but real love comes after getting to know each other....he's on that infatuation high...kind of like that manic love that you mentioned.

Take the time to fall in love.

Yes, you have to define what you, yourself want from "love" and then judge the other people by it. He doesn't know much of you yet (or you are very shallow :-) so it's a bit of a slap in the face for him to declare he "loves" you. He's implying either you don't have very much to you or he's immature and doesn't have much of a standard about who/why he loves?

As someone whose husband asked her to marry him on the third date, I can say it does happen. We've been married almost 25 years now. Do I recommend it though? Not really. In retrospect more time would have been a good thing, but the ultimate outcome would probably have been the same in our case.

Yep. My H declared on our FIRST date that he was going to marry me, and two years later, we did get married, and we've been married for 18 years. I'm sure we'll be together forever.

I was super young, and I do wonder sometimes if I had waited for things to develop more slowly and if I had trusted my OWN feelings if things would be different.

Thank you. I think maybe you are right on some level, not about me being shallow cos i'm not lol but about him being immature. I'm 27 and he's only 21 and he is a little immature but he's also very sweet. I also think he has ADHD too. I know he's had a lot of problems with his behaviour growing up.

Thank you all for replying

yeah, you're both young but him especially. I'm 29 and I know I was a very different person when I was 21. If he says it again, you could hold his hand and sweetly say something like "let's not get carried away here...we didn't even know each other 2 weeks ago!"...haha