[ladyjrnlist]

Told my T that I have a transference thing with him. I think about him a lot, wish I could talk to him, sometimes it's sexual. It was SO hard to tell him.
But, you know what? He was so cool about it. He didn't even blush or twitch or act any differently. We talked about it for a while. Then, he told me we do have a special relationship that is unique to therapy and it is OK to feel good about it.
I told him I need him and he said it was OK to need people. I have a thing about needing people--don't want to have to.
He reminded me to focus on my love for my hubby, which I will gladly do.
Now, the anxiety is gone, I'm NOT thinking about T as much and I feel closer to him in therapy.
Whew!! I was sweatin' that one, lemme tell you. I couldn't believe how professional he was about it. I trust him more than ever.
Thanks

[sundog]

Wow. That is great! So glad you have such a good T. Well done for being so honest. Really happy for you that this was a positive experience and the anxiety around this has now gone! Yay

[jilliebeanmn]

I admire your braveness. That is a tough subject to bring up, even though it's part of the "process". Nice work!

[MASIMO]

[quote=ladyjrnlist;1557774]Told my T that I have a transference thing with him. I think about him a lot, wish I could talk to him, sometimes it's sexual. It was SO hard to tell him.
But, you know what? He was so cool about it. He didn't even blush or twitch or act any differently. We talked about it for a while. Then, he told me we do have a special relationship that is unique to therapy and it is OK to feel good about it.
I told him I need him and he said it was OK to need people. I have a thing about needing people--don't want to have to.
He reminded me to focus on my love for my hubby, which I will gladly do.
Now, the anxiety is gone, I'm NOT thinking about T as much and I feel closer to him in therapy.
Whew!! I was sweatin' that one, lemme tell you. I couldn't believe how professional he was about it. I trust him more than ever.
Thanks
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I admire your courage. I feel like my feelings are a deep dark secret and I could never tell him. If he pressured me on it, I would probably be honest with him, but I dont know if he has picked up on it or not. If he has, he is not addressing it. I wish my feelings could be on the table, but as my marriage if falling apart, the issue could really confuse me and I fear he may want me to see someone else. So I will keep it to myself and go into my private world with him when I need to be intimate with him. I actually think it is a way of giving me more support.

[sharon123]

I told my t 6 years ago (with him for 7 yrs); he knew I had feelings/was in love with him. I felt like I was hiding something, and as excruicatingly scary as it was....i did tell him...well, that and many poems later....