[struggling8326]

I saw a therapist for a few years but the relationships became weird because of her sharing her personal life with me so I quit. Now she is my EX therapist and we are friends. We don't hang out but we talk/text a lot. She has shared so much with me and obviously she knows a ton about me. The problem is, I"m VERY attracted/obsessed with her. She has shared things with me that, according to her, she has not shared with others. What does that make me????? A sounding board for my therapist??? I SO want to connect with her on a deeper level. I logically know that this would be a very bad idea but the thoughts haunt me constantly. I can logically see she still has "power" over me but I have "power" too because the stuff I know could be ruin her. Of course, I would never do that... I struggle every day with how to maintain the relationship and how to take it one step further.

Tomorrow I am meeting with a new counselor and one of the issues I need to work through is my old counselor. Of course I can't use her name because the last thing I want to do is get her in trouble. I have a HORRIBLE track record with therapist... they have all become my friends. I'm not sure what that says about me

[Lauliza]

The fact that you become friends with your therapists actually says more about them than it does about you.

I think you need to decide what exactly it is that YOU get out of the continued contact with your ex T, aside from the attraction and obsession. If the attraction weren't there, would you still be in contact with her? My take would be to cut contact, but I know that is easier said than done. I'd be curious to see what your new T advises. Good luck!

[HazelGirl]

Definitely be very honest about your new T in regards to this old relationship. It seems to be hurting you (or at least making you very uncomfortable), and it is definitely not healthy.