[Elroy]

While I know more than my share of "transference issues" and although my therapist is quite attractive it's never been much of an issue until now. For the most part, therapy with her has been positive and productive and when the day came when I found myself attracted to her after 7 months of therapy things have grinded to a halt to the point where I'm making up excuses for cancelling sessions to the point I have cancelled seeing her for an entire month. And while she is a caring therapist - actually one of the better ones with a good education from a great school, currently working on her Ph.D, her intelligence fascinates me over her beauty. I don;t know maybe it's envy or what but is this normal?

[Marie123]

Feelings aren't right or wrong...or "normal"---They simply are........I think you should discuss with her what is going on; you cannot be helped if you keep cancelling appointments.

I told my t after a year of my feelings for him; we discussed in in depth...after 7 years, I still feel the same....

[LavalampTerry]

Hey man, you started therapy for a reason, and if this has come up, then maybe it's worth talking about. With your T. I get it about how intimidating that can be... Took me about 3 years to level with my T about how I feel about her. But, when I finally did it, I wondered why I had waited so long!! It put us on a whole different level with each other. One less secret to keep when I've lived my whole life keeping secrets... You might want to think about telling her. Don't have to get into it in details - my T still doesn't know that i thought of her during those "special times" at home.... But, knowing her, I'm guessing she has figured that out...

Just GO to therapy. And let her know.... It'll be hard. But it'll be worth it!!!

Good luck!!

Terry

[Elroy]

Thanks but since then I have dropped out of therapy. For one it wasn't working and two, it was too expensive. She is better off with much better clients anyway.

[LavalampTerry]

Sorry to hear that Elroy. So much for "positive and productive...." Hope thngs work out for you. I DO understand wanting to walk away from all that stuff... Been tempted to do so more than once myself... But, I tend to agree with the old saying "Where ever you go - there you are." So I stay. And muddle through. And occasionally see where it's all worthwhile. And it is. Today.

Good luck!!