[rolan86]

I'm slowly getting better at coping with my feelings for T. It's been a couple months now and I still haven't contacted her. She said not to, so I didn't. It's just weird though, like I keep thinking awesome! I've gone this long! And then I just think, wait... for what? What's the point? What do I get out of this? My mind plays this game where it tries to turn the situation around so that all this time of not contacting her is just going to make her miss me, so that she will contact me. I know this is not true. I know the only prize in this struggle is for me to get on with my life, but for some reason I keep feeling like me never contacting her again will somehow get her attention...

[BatsAndButterflies]

That's wonderful! Glad to hear you've made so much progress! Keep it up! Don't doubt your progress or turn it into something negative! You're doing great!

[FunnyBone]

The goal is not to "get over" T.
There is no getting over it, if in fact it was a success.
Cruel as that might seem.

You don't need to wait for time to heal anything.
Nothing is broken.
The pain you feel is growth. That can hurt a lot.
It feels like a broken heart.
It's actually a mending heart.
You have discovered that you can love a healthy wonderful person very deeply.
That means that you are a wonderful and healthy person.
Many people never feel what you are feeling. They are the broken ones.
Yes, there will be a prize at the end.
As a matter of fact,the prize is growing in you now, because of that relationship.
it's just a matter of time before all that healthy wonderful love inside you finds another
healthy wonderful loving person that feels that way about you.
That is the prize.
It's worth it.
Best of luck to you my friend.

[kirbydog156]

Beautiful, FunnyBone.

[rolan86]

Yeah definitely a great way to look at it. It helps a lot thinking about it that way! thanks