[lbdrox]

T was my teacher in school. The first class we had with him, he told us his life story. I didn't know he was a T, and I thought he was a cool guy. I had no feelings for him whatsoever. I didn't even think he was cute. In the second class, he started talking about emotions and feelings, etc. and I got really scared. I then got really nervous around him and his class. If someone even mentioned his name I blew my stack. Every time his class came around it would be a battle whether I should go or not. I always had to look amazing if I went, just so I'd feel good about myself. I'd sit like a board the entire class, and if I asked a question, I usually got embarrassed and blushed. I would talk to him after class sometimes, and he slowly learned my life story. When I found out he was a T, (not professionaly trained though) it only made sense that I'd want him to be my T.
So I started with him, both of us knowing that he drove me crazy. Even though I told him about it, he never did anything about it. I've noticed on other posts that people say, "If you're T knows what to do and is willing to do it, it can be part of therapy". I'd like to know what that means, since I don't think my T has done anything. It's probably different in every relationship, but how is it possible to make it part of it? I really want to know, since I've been in therapy for almost 4 months. I'm also thinking of quitting for the summer, because my feelings for him have gotten so intense. I even had a dream about him, in which he touched my upper leg. So, if anyone can clarify for me, that would be really nice! Thanks!

luv,
lbdrox

[pbutton]

I'm kind of stuck on the part where you say he is a T but not professionally trained. What exactly does that mean?

[lbdrox]

Originally Posted by pbutton

I'm kind of stuck on the part where you say he is a T but not professionally trained. What exactly does that mean?

I know that he didn't go through 8 years of school, that's for sure. He did courses and stuff, I think. He went through his own therapy, and he has teachers and mentors... I don't know what his full credentials are. Also, he doesn't do regular psychotherapy. It's more like feel your feelings/primal therapy.

[critterlady]

If he's not a professional therapist, it's not very likely he's skilled enough to use transference to its advantage. It takes a lot of skill and experience to do it successfully.

Please find out what his actual credentials are - is he licensed? An untrained therapist can do more harm than good sometimes and it's already a bit questionable to have started with him as your teacher. That's a dual relationship right off the bat, which complicates things a lot.

[lbdrox]

Originally Posted by critterlady

If he's not a professional therapist, it's not very likely he's skilled enough to use transference to its advantage. It takes a lot of skill and experience to do it successfully.

Please find out what his actual credentials are - is he licensed? An untrained therapist can do more harm than good sometimes and it's already a bit questionable to have started with him as your teacher. That's a dual relationship right off the bat, which complicates things a lot.

He was my teacher for a few months before he became my therapist. I started therapy 1 week before spring break, so he was only my teacher and therapist together for 1 week. I don't think he's licensed. I think I might quit for the summer.

[mcl6136]

Originally Posted by lbdrox

T was my teacher in school. The first class we had with him, he told us his life story. I didn't know he was a T, and I thought he was a cool guy. I had no feelings for him whatsoever. I didn't even think he was cute. In the second class, he started talking about emotions and feelings, etc. and I got really scared. I then got really nervous around him and his class. If someone even mentioned his name I blew my stack. Every time his class came around it would be a battle whether I should go or not. I always had to look amazing if I went, just so I'd feel good about myself. I'd sit like a board the entire class, and if I asked a question, I usually got embarrassed and blushed. I would talk to him after class sometimes, and he slowly learned my life story. When I found out he was a T, (not professionaly trained though) it only made sense that I'd want him to be my T.
So I started with him, both of us knowing that he drove me crazy. Even though I told him about it, he never did anything about it. I've noticed on other posts that people say, "If you're T knows what to do and is willing to do it, it can be part of therapy". I'd like to know what that means, since I don't think my T has done anything. It's probably different in every relationship, but how is it possible to make it part of it? I really want to know, since I've been in therapy for almost 4 months. I'm also thinking of quitting for the summer, because my feelings for him have gotten so intense. I even had a dream about him, in which he touched my upper leg. So, if anyone can clarify for me, that would be really nice! Thanks!

luv,
lbdrox

There's no reason to think this will end well.

[unaluna]

She's baaaaaack (and in good form!)

Originally Posted by hankster

She's baaaaaack (and in good form!)

I am joining the .." there is no reason to think this will end well group" A therapist should have full training otherwise thinks could get messy. Hugs

[anilam]

Me too, there's the dual relationship (My T is a professor at UNI and he would never ever taken one of his students to be his client), him being not licensed (and his credentials are questionable to say the least)- BTW do you pay him for the sessions? -and you falling in love with him even before he became your T (again I'd say that's a big no for starting a therapy)
Falling in love with your professor it's not that uncommon and mostly it doesn't end well, choosing him to be your "T" well I'm sorry to say but it looks like a recipe for a disaster...

"Also, he doesn't do regular psychotherapy. It's more like feel your feelings/primal therapy" OK I'm not even gonna go there.

I don't know him/you/the situation... but it sounds like you could benefit from a REAL T and from quitting this one not only for summer.

[lbdrox]

I guess you're right... I'm just so annoyed, because I've been doing it with him for almost 4 months, and I really don't want to quit. Then I'll need to start over with someone else which really sucks. The thing is that all the things we talk about make sense and all the things he tells me are true. I don't know if I'm defending myself or not, but this is how I feel!

lbdrox