In asking my T if he is sexually attracted to me? I know he said he wasn't allowed to tell clients if he was attracted to them, but did he say this to lay a trap for me? Am I allowed to ask the question if he isn't allowed to tell me?Did he do this to somehow inflame my desire for him? Give me false hope? I know if I ask I'll have to accept if he says no. I do feel like I've been set up though.

[FeelTheBurn]

Can you think of a possible outcome of asking that question that would feel healthy and positive for you? Seems to me your motivation for asking him is what is most important here. And that you may be the one setting yourself up...

[Mapleton]

Originally Posted by Bipolarartist

In asking my T if he is sexually attracted to me? I know he said he wasn't allowed to tell clients if he was attracted to them, but did he say this to lay a trap for me? Am I allowed to ask the question if he isn't allowed to tell me?Did he do this to somehow inflame my desire for him? Give me false hope? I know if I ask I'll have to accept if he says no. I do feel like I've been set up though.

I sometimes find myself in the position of thinking that saying something is a little risky. If I know there are very concrete reasons I shouldn't, and smaller "I'll feel better if I do" feelings pushing me towards doing it... then the "right" thing to do is to be a little cautious, and go with the concrete reasons not to.

There's nothing to say you can't just hold onto the feelings for a while and ask later, if they are still really bothering you.

You can also phrase the question as about a question about your wanting to ask him this. Then he doesn't really have to answer or offend you by not answering to your satisfaction.