I'm going to be terminating in what seems like hopefully a week or two.

I realize that my T can't give me what I want, and has been VERY dismissive of my feelings. I'm pretty sure he tries to pretend that they don't exist. He often tries to redirect them, instead of just OPENLY talking about them. Because, to him, talking about them "gets in the way" of the therapeutic process. I feel like he couldn't be any more wrong. Just my opinion.

He's missed the mark entirely. I guess he really doesn't have enough training in transference. It's sad, cause I think he would be great if he just expanded his scope a little bit. I've found a new T in my town who is purely psychodynamic/Jungian, and I think it will bring really wonderful things for me.

I'm a bit depressed today that I'm going to have to end it with current T. I'm not ready to let go yet, but there really is NOTHING that can be done. I would like to be his friend after all of this, but I don't think that's really achievable, either. I think I was nothing more than just some client who was entertaining from time to time. I think I'm kidding myself if I thought it was ever anything more. He meant a great deal to me, but I have to learn to let go.

It's painful, cause I wished he understood, even just on a human level, of what I'm going through. But he doesn't. He doesn't care.

[gma45]

Sounds like you know what you need to do. Sometimes it is hard when people don't really get us. Or respond like we would like them too. This other therapist you are planning on seeing sounds good. I wish you the best.

[homeward]

You are so smart to realize that T are human too, and can't always meet our needs. I wish you the best luck with your new T!

[SabinaS]

Oh Winenot, I'm sorry, I didn't realise he was being so dismissive - that must have been tough to work with. From your posts, it sounds as though you really wanted to explore your feelings and your relationship with T. So, as much as it will, and does hurt, you are making the right decision for you.

When do you start with your new T? You will be able to bring your loss into your new sessions. I imagine it might be quite weird for a while, seeing someone new... don't be surprised if you hate him/her for a bit, while you grieve for other T.

Jungians are a good sort though Let us know how it goes.

[iheartjacques]

I wish you well with the new t. I hope your grief doesn't last too long

[Lauliza]

I'm so sorry things turned out like this for you and I hope the pain fades soon. I hope your new T is a better fit.

Well, my T and I are actually going to try and work things out. I'm still seeing both therapists, but somehow my original T has convinced me to stay (not difficult, as I'm still crazy about him). We will see how long this lasts. There are things about the second therapist that I still find very helpful, but obviously, I have huge emotional ties with the first.

And no, I have not told T1 about T2. Not sure if I ever will, actually. Who knows, though...