[RedSun]

Ugh, thought I was over all this, but my T is on my mind 24/7.
We talked about some difficult stuff last session and I did feel like she really cared (in a professional way). But now I cannot get her out of my head, I miss her so much. I have every kind of feeling for her. And I'm so angry at her too, because I am just a client, but I feel so helpless.
AND I bet all her clients adore her too!
I'm almost thinking I should quit and find a new therapist, an ugly boring one...
But she is amazing as a therapist. Owww, so confusing, it hurts!

[iheartjacques]

Hang in there. It gets better. Soon she'll slip up and you'll see she's only human. But be prepared for a whole heap of anger.

[RedSun]

I can feel a big pot of anger bubbling away in my tummy! Why? Who am I angry with? Thanks for saying it gets better.... I really don't want to change therapists, but I need my life / head / heart back....

[nicoleflynn]

transference is just a fancy word for feelings. Therapy can be intense and we develop feelings for out t's. It is all normal and happens a lot.

[boredporcupine]

It might help you get some distance from the feelings if you think of them as memories of feelings from previous relationships. I am guessing you have been feeling a little close to your T, and it's the closeness that brings up all the other feelings. Sorting through those feelings is the main work of therapy in my opinion.

[InRealLife45]

Originally Posted by iheartjacques

Soon she'll slip up and you'll see she's only human. But be prepared for a whole heap of anger.

lol best advice ever and oh so true. everyone beginning therapy should get a form with this warning on it.

[RedSun]

Okay,so you guys were right...here's the anger!
I am soooo peed off with T now, I have been acting like a brat, ignoring kind emails, being rude in session...
Why???
Ugh, I thought I would be such a 'good' client, I am a complete pain!

[iheartjacques]

I think it's because we put them in a pedestal, and then they're just as annoying or unreliable as anyone else in our lives and it's a big let down.

[Soccer mom]

I can be mad at mine one day and missing her the next. And, I think it's more intense when I know I have things to discuss with her. I've realized why I have a hard time talking to her so I really want to tell her now but don't see her until Tuesday. As Tuesday approaches, I'll be anxious/nervous/excited all over again. Such a rollercoaster of emotions!