[iheartjacques]

I've had quite a few Ts over the years. But only one really good one in the past. I never got really attached to them or had this "erotic transference" with them or other male figures. I had a crush on my GP but he's now just a really good doctor. Why only this current T do I have such strong feelings for? I say I'm attracted to him but u get told that it's erotic transference. Whatever it is, it's a bit overwhelming. I won't tell him because I don't want to be terminated before I'm ready as I'm still working through some stuff that he's really helped with. I missed my last great T for quite some time so I'm scared that this one will feel like someone died.

[JustShakey]

My T says that the connection - or perhaps disconnection and ET that happened with my previous T would have happened with any female therapist. I disagree. I think there is some sort of subconscious connection that happens with only with certain people based on a combination of personality type and experience and what's going on around you and with you at the time. While it may be true I think it's an oversimplification to say that transference, or at least the same type of transference can happen with anybody.
Why your current T and not the others? Only you can answer that. I have a few ideas about why previous T. I can't know anything for sure, because I don't know her at all, but I suspect we have things in common but very different ways of dealing with them.

[Chummy]

I've no idea. I've only had this ET or romantic feelings for this pdoc. I didn't had many male T's, there were a few in group therapy. I also didn't had it with any teachers or other male figures. So I think what I feel for my pdoc are just romantic feelings or attraction and not transference.