These feelings aren't related to romance, but I am posting this here since this topic is discussed here. It's a basic, but popular and informative article explaining Erotic vs. Eroticized Transference:

Recognizing and Managing Erotic and Eroticized Transferences

Psychiatry (Edgmont). 2007 Apr; 4(4): 47–50
PMCID: PMC2921238

Also a good article for those new to this subject. It really helped me when these feelings first emerged in my therapy years ago. It's not uncommon to have these feelings in dynamic therapy.

[nicoleflynn]

Sometimes we just love who we love and it has nothing to do with the unconscious, childhood or the past.

[RedSun]

Thanks, that is an interesting article, v helpful.
I agree with above that sometimes we love who we love....but I guess transference is a very different process from the usual falling in love...

I felt at the start that I was actually 'falling in love' with my T...but I can see now how I was playing out an unconscious process, that I can only be valued in a relationship if I can provide sex, because I have nothing else to offer...it's been helpful, and painful!

[Hopelesspoppy]

Originally Posted by ex vivo

These feelings aren't related to romance, but I am posting this here since this topic is discussed here. It's a basic, but popular and informative article explaining Erotic vs. Eroticized Transference:

Recognizing and Managing Erotic and Eroticized Transferences

Psychiatry (Edgmont). 2007 Apr; 4(4): 47–50
PMCID: PMC2921238

Also a good article for those new to this subject. It really helped me when these feelings first emerged in my therapy years ago. It's not uncommon to have these feelings in dynamic therapy.

Unfortunately, when you are in the thick of it you have already been convinced and/or convinced yourself that you are a part of a miraculous alignment of the cosmos. Most people who look into these topics are already victims of abuse....

Originally Posted by Hopelesspoppy

Unfortunately, when you are in the thick of it you have already been convinced and/or convinced yourself that you are a part of a miraculous alignment of the cosmos. Most people who look into these topics are already victims of abuse....

Im not sure what happened to you but am sorry you had an unfortunate experience.

My own experience with this issue has been positive.

.I felt at the start that I was actually 'falling in love' with my T...

Same here, but it took a few months for mine to develop. It didn't feel any different than falling in love with boyfriends. I see both as transferences for me.

I'm actually reflecting back on things now because I'm thinking about quitting therapy.

[RedSun]

Btw I am in no way at all a victim of abuse from my T.
She didn't take any advantage from my lovestruck state in any way.

[BudFox]

Articles like this creep me out. So pathologizing and so clinical. All feelings induced in the client are framed as primarily material for therapy and an indicator of some affliction that must be rooted out, and seemingly there is no allowance for the possibility that the feelings or desires are just what they appear to be... and might be largely a product of the process itself.

All normality is squeezed out in favor of a laboratory sort of analysis, wherein feelings are "managed" and the client is treated as a malfunctioning unit that can be tweaked into "normal" functioning.