Can having love transference with your therapist can come and go?

I had a intense love transference towards my therapist early this year after I mentioned it to my therapist it slowly went away, but then my transference changed to my therapist being a teacher and me being student.
So in other words I projected my therapist as a teacher.

Well my therapist kept mentioning it once in every session, how they feel treated as a teacher and myself as as a student.
It got me thinking so I self reflect and brought up next session and told them my two ideas why I would project them as a teacher. As my therapist said to me before I mentioned the two ideas "to end the teacher and student transference" which I thought oh well they didn't like that transference.
But now its kinda gone back to love transference.
Like today they wore different shoes than what they normally wear and I thought in the back of my mind how the shoes looked cute on them. They also mentioned about there kid as why they were late. I thought to myself I could never have an affair with this therapist. I thought they married and have kids I wouldn't be that woman who my own dad cheated with and left my mum. I wouldn't hurt another child. I reflected what I thought.. Im.thinking what the hell am I thinking here!?
Of course my therapist wouldn't ask an affair they lose.there psychology licence. Plus its not healthy for therapist to do that to client anyway... And why am.I thinking they cute again! Why am I having this love transference again!
Whats.going on?

Im really confused here. Has anyone experience this? Or know whats going on?

[nicoleflynn]

Feelings are just that....feelings.

Originally Posted by TeaFruit

Can having love transference with your therapist can come and go?

I had a intense love transference towards my therapist early this year after I mentioned it to my therapist it slowly went away, but then my transference changed to my therapist being a teacher and me being student.
So in other words I projected my therapist as a teacher.

Well my therapist kept mentioning it once in every session, how they feel treated as a teacher and myself as as a student.
It got me thinking so I self reflect and brought up next session and told them my two ideas why I would project them as a teacher. As my therapist said to me before I mentioned the two ideas "to end the teacher and student transference" which I thought oh well they didn't like that transference.
But now its kinda gone back to love transference.
Like today they wore different shoes than what they normally wear and I thought in the back of my mind how the shoes looked cute on them. They also mentioned about there kid as why they were late. I thought to myself I could never have an affair with this therapist. I thought they married and have kids I wouldn't be that woman who my own dad cheated with and left my mum. I wouldn't hurt another child. I reflected what I thought.. Im.thinking what the hell am I thinking here!?
Of course my therapist wouldn't ask an affair they lose.there psychology licence. Plus its not healthy for therapist to do that to client anyway... And why am.I thinking they cute again! Why am I having this love transference again!
Whats.going on?

Im really confused here. Has anyone experience this? Or know whats going on?

It's just transference going on. You are projecting onto your T the feelings you had from your past. Although you know intellectually this is not quite right, your feelings are not in agreement! Transference changes as you grow & you might find another projection along the way. Don't get too hung up on it as it's quite normal & it tells your T exactly what you need to work on. We display with our T's how we behave in other relationships whilst interacting with them. Just enjoy those transference feelings as they will change.

[Moment]

Sure, feelings come and go and ebb and flow....
It can be useful to ask yourself, "Why do I feel this way now?"
Like do you feel that way when you have stressful things going on in your life, or feel especially lonely in your real life for some reason?
Or is there something you guys should be talking about that you don't want to talk about so instead of thinking about that, you are obsessing on crushing? Etc.