[SummerTime12]

I did it omg. I told my T I’m attracted to him...

...and I’m still alive.

I thought I’d make a separate thread for this, thank you for all of the support in my other thread. He handled it really well thankfully.

[DP_2017]

Wahoo! Glad to hear it! I know reading a lot of stories online can scare you away from telling because some T's handle it poorly, but I am glad it went well.

[nicoleflynn]

Good for you! I did it and my t handled it beautifully....as he/they should!

[SummerTime12]

Thank you both! I brought it up right at the end so we didn’t really have time to talk about it, but he said it’s very normal and thanked me for feeling comfortable enough to tell him. He said we’d talk about it more next time. I’m super nervous for that.
I’m just so glad he didn’t pull a boundary talk with me, as I would have found that condescending since I’m very aware of the boundaries.

[I'mNotDonneYet]

Summer, just a tip, when you do speak with T at more length about this, T will probably set out the boundary thing at that time. T would be doing so, strictly to cover their *****, so if there is ever an issue with the governing body, an investigation etc they can say they DID take all steps to make clear the boundaries and followed all ethical and legal standards.

I remember how my heart sank when T did so with me - he said to me, "INDY, you know there will never, ever be anything between us" and I said in frustration, irritation "I KNOW....." (yes I felt patronized). This was the only time I have sort of raised my voice with him. All the while thinking "the only reason there will "never" be anything between us is because you won't LET there be, but you know as well as I do we are perfect for each other, we have so much in common, we SHOULD be together........" a feeling I still get from time to time.......(and other times I wonder if it's just habit - it's getting on to 3 yrs now since I told him how attracted I was to him......)

So just want to suggest you might want to be prepared for "the boundary speech" even if it didn't come out right off the bat.

[VanessaBett]

I've always been curious about why my T never said anything like that when I disclosed my feelings about him. He didn't say a word about what would or would not happen.

[DP_2017]

Boundary changes are the worst... I have evidence of crossed boundaries on his end though, you never know if you will need it.

So far my T has not changed them and I think he wont for a while. Hope your doing ok Summer

[SummerTime12]

Update: we talked about it more and still no discussion of boundaries, so that’s good. I think he knows that those aren’t my intentions at all and that’s why. We were able to talk openly about it and it actually wasn’t all that uncomfortable, surprisingly. I don’t feel that he’s acting any different towards me either, which is one thing I was afraid of. Overall I think I feel safer with him now after disclosing.