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Default Nov 10, 2018 at 10:11 AM
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I agree. Responsibility is from both sides.

When Im mad I want to report my t but.. I know its way to do revenge for hurting me and leaving me but honestly if I did it, I would just damage his life and got nothing. I wanted to sleep with him. It wasnt abuse. It was just unhealthy relationship between man and woman.
If I reported him, it wouldnt be honest. I hope I will get over this without hate. Hate and revenge destroy the person who feels hate. I am not God to judge him.
It absolutely was abuse. No matter how much you wanted to, it the onus was 100% on him to make sure it didn’t happen.

It took me a long time to believe and accept that. I hope one day you will too.
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Default Nov 10, 2018 at 01:50 PM
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It absolutely was abuse. No matter how much you wanted to, it the onus was 100% on him to make sure it didn’t happen.
I agree it is 100% on the therapist to make sure it does not happen no matter how much the client wants it or how much he wants it. The minute he felt a ANY countertransference on his part ,that he could not let go of, he should have referred you out.

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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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