[stahrgeyzer]

Sorry, I just feel like I need some simple/quick advice.

I have a psychologist. Googling says it's abbreviated as psy. Please correct me if wrong.

This is my 1st psy/T/pdoc ever and had 1 session so far. I tried soooo much to find another one because visually she's 100% my type. There's too much chemistry for me, but I couldn't get past that she specializes in exactly what I need in a psy/pdoc/T. Long story short, I made appointment with a lmft, male, no chemistry. Woke up next morning & 1st thing on my mind was overwhelming desire to see her, the one I need for psychotherapy & not run away from her because of chemistry.

So I canceled with the lmft & made appointment with her, the psy. My 1st session was nerve wracking, embarrassing, awkward, I felt stupid. Next saturday will be my 2nd session and I can hardly wait to see her but I'm determined to not have feelings for her. Just as big a part of me wants to see her as a motherly figure, which I never really had! Uggg I need someone to care for me soooo bad that I have tears in my eyes.... Honestly I feel like I would jump off a cliff if she asked me to, ... which is seeing her as a motherly figure, right?

Idk, I'm just so confused how to feel. I think she's incredibly cute, everything about her, her personality. And she's so giving & nice. In short, after talking to her, she's so nice to me that I swear she would give me sessions for $1. ....I should try to get feelings out of my mind. I like that she's nice, though.

Is seeing her as a motherly figure wrong?

[ArtleyWilkins]

After only one session? That seems rather an intense reaction for a first session.

Maybe ask yourself if you want to see her because she has the skill and professionalism to help you work through your issues, or if you want to see her simply because of how cute and nice she is. (It sounds mostly like the latter).

Perhaps investigate some other therapists to see if you can find a therapist that feels able to work with your issues that you can feel a little more emotionally balanced about. The intensity after just one session just seems extreme and may be fraught with complication down the road.

[stahrgeyzer]

Originally Posted by ArtleyWilkins

After only one session? That seems rather an intense reaction for a first session.

Maybe ask yourself if you want to see her because she has the skill and professionalism to help you work through your issues, or if you want to see her simply because of how cute and nice she is. (It sounds mostly like the latter).

Perhaps investigate some other therapists to see if you can find a therapist that feels able to work with your issues that you can feel a little more emotionally balanced about. The intensity after just one session just seems extreme and may be fraught with complication down the road.

Like I said, the reason I did not contact her at first was because of how cute she is, and the only reason I canceled my appointment with the lmft therapist was because the psychologist credentials were exactly what I needed and I was determined to not allow chemistry destroy that. So why in the world would I see someone else? That seems crazy to me!

[stahrgeyzer]

Did you speed read my post? After one session? What are you referring?? I never said I was in love with her. Good grief. I never said I even had a crush on her. I said she's cute and my type (chemistry).

I think I'm done 100% with PC. Most of you people have beef with me. I love myself because I'm a truth seeker and want to help the world.

DONE!

[ArtleyWilkins]

I'm sorry if you are offended. I was just trying to clarify. You stated in your first sentence,"This is my 1st psy/T/pdoc ever and had 1 session so far." But that is why I asked if it was your first session; it was a bit unclear in your post. You also stated it was too much chemistry for you, and I just offered ideas on options, such as perhaps seeing a few other therapists to see if you can find one that can help without that intensity which you seem to be saying feels a bit much for you.

I'm not sure why you think I have a "beef with you." I don't think I've ever interacted with you before. I will not again since I have apparently upset you.

[stahrgeyzer]

Sorry. It's not so much you but a build up of snobbish people on PC, IMO, and your post just pushed me over the limit. I just want to leave PC and will probably never come back and so all the illogical thinking people can celebrate. Fine, I'm happy for you people................................

Dont worry i'll do life alone but leaving psychologist scares me. what you said scares me, makes me shake and its hard to even type. i'm keeping my psychologist because she's an amazing profession and cares about me unlike 99.9% of peopl here

[Lonelyinmyheart]

I'm sorry you feel uncared about. It sounds like this is a really sensitive issue for you but people here just want to help and understand. Seeing your t as a mother figure is not wrong, it's very understandable. And finding her cute or attractive isn't wrong either. I see my t both as a mother figure and also someone I find immensely attractive. The two things are not separate (can't think of the right word) and often get mixed up. I had quite an intense reaction to my T at the first session - something about her just triggered something incredibly strong in me - she is beautiful but also so caring and knows her stuff. Sometimes you meet someone and you just know there's something about them that is right for you, or gives you what you need. It's not unlike falling in love, imo.

[FooZe]

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