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Default Oct 27, 2020 at 03:22 AM
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I think once you have these feelings you should find another therapist. I would think it would be hard to continue benefitting from therapy and the feelings would become confusing.

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By the sound of it, you must be in psychoanalysis. When a client has feelings for a psychoanalyst, they usually refer that client to someone else. I think this is barbaric as the client is left completely abandoned and feels like he or she has done something wrong when this is not the case. Also, the pain is there and untaken care of. A transfer might happen with the next psychoanalyst, then what?
Maybe it might be wise to change the kind of therapist you are using. There are other therapists who use different kind of therapy and who welcome transference, as it is a golden opportunity for a deep healing. Psychodynamic does that but I am not sure if this is the right kind of therapy for you.
Do not despair, interview some therapists and make sure that you mention transference and how they deal with it.
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Default Dec 02, 2020 at 09:47 AM
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By the sound of it, you must be in psychoanalysis. When a client has feelings for a psychoanalyst, they usually refer that client to someone else. I think this is barbaric as the client is left completely abandoned and feels like he or she has done something wrong when this is not the case. Also, the pain is there and untaken care of. A transfer might happen with the next psychoanalyst, then what?
Maybe it might be wise to change the kind of therapist you are using. There are other therapists who use different kind of therapy and who welcome transference, as it is a golden opportunity for a deep healing. Psychodynamic does that but I am not sure if this is the right kind of therapy for you.
Do not despair, interview some therapists and make sure that you mention transference and how they deal with it.
I think you might be confused with a different mode of therapy Flower. In psychoanalytic/depth therapy, transference and feelings about the relationship are worked with. In fact, transference is a. key component in psychoanalysis.

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I think you might be confused with a different mode of therapy Flower. In psychoanalytic/depth therapy, transference and feelings about the relationship are worked with. In fact, transference is a. key component in psychoanalysis.
I agree with you on this. I've been in psychodynamic/analytical therapy for the past 2 1/2 years. Started once a week the first year, twice a week second year and I'm up to three time as of september. I've developped a "crush" on T right from the start. As the therapy progressed, I've developped a deep growing fondness and attachement plus the sexual attraction that was already there. I've never hidden the fact that I've found them sexy. But as the feelings have deepened, Just this last session, I've talked about being worried that if I express everything I have in me towards them, it will scrare them away thus terminating the therapy. I told them I felt like my emotions are like an enraged dog on a leash. If I let go, I'll run to them and bite. They were exceedingly reassuring telling me that those emotions are and will be there regardless, whether I share them or not. (Some are pretty erotic for which I feel guilty because I'm 25 years married). I kept pressing on the fact that sharing these fantasies are the reason some therapist terminate a client. That I have grived too many people in my life (parents, son) that I dont want this to happen to me because I would feel heartbroken. I said I know they couldn't promise anything but, after these past 2 years, for the first time, I got reassurance from them telling me: "it's ok. I feel comfortable guiding you through this. It won't scare me if you bite". My therapist is the blankest slate a blank slate can be. Really distant. It took all this time for me to open up. Finally, I felt heard and respected. I think I have a golden T. I guess I'm sharing this because there are really wonderful and professional humans out there. I knew I had attachement issues from the get go. Transferenceis key in psychoanalytical therapy. This is exactly the kind of help I need.

Sorry about the long post. I guess I didnt really have advice to give. Just wanted to say good ppl are out there guys.

OP, please update us on the new therapist.
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