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I am a gay female. I prefer female therapists, I just feel uncomfortable with men in general and can’t imagine opening up to one. Just a personal preference. I feel like I’ve developed feelings for every therapist I’ve had. I don’t plan it or select them based off of how they look, I think I am just attracted to their emotional intelligence. My current therapist is successful and educated and I can’t get over her. I’ve vaguely told her I have feelings but worked through them, and she basically said that is great and we never spoke about it again. I kind of mentioned it again in hypothetical terms, then blew it off and she did as well. We have a live online session tomorrow so I’m kind of nervous it will be brought up. I imagine her as the type that may end therapy with me, thinking it will interfere. She is very professional and does not “cross any lines”. I wish she would though. I don’t care what is right or wrong.
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I've experienced something similar so I can definitely identify. Wish I knew what to say that would help. Sometimes our brain has a mind of its own. I sure hope things work out for you.
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That means a lot, thank you and I appreciate your kindness.
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It's incredibly common and normal to have those feelings. Maybe you need to talk more openly about how you feel. A "good" therapist will be able to receive and think about your feelings, and explore them with you in an ethical way. If she can't do that, then she's not the right therapist for you. It's a damned if you do, damned if you don't kinda thing. Does she have a supervisor?
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