I thought PM meant PRIVATE message? Not public everyone can read it message?

This is only going to feed my paranoia issues if they can read our messages

PMs should only be seen by two people in my opinion, the person who sends it (how else would they type it up if they didn't read what they was typing?) and the person getting the PM

Please don't read all my PMs, it's bad enough three knowing when I'm saying anything let alone the mods and admins reading all my PMs as well

My inbox is not for reading up what I'm chatting about with friends on the forum

Please stay out of my inbox

[-jimi-]

I'm going to treat this as a misunderstanding until we hear words from admin.

That they do NOT read our PM's.

Because otherwise I'll throw up.

Stay calm, pplz!!!

I'm in the beginning stages of a panic attack over this

I reckon they are reading my inbox now

Originally Posted by -jimi-

I'm going to treat this as a misunderstanding until we hear words from admin.

That they do NOT read our PM's.

Because otherwise I'll throw up.

Stay calm, pplz!!!

I actually feel sick with anxiety now

[atisketatasket]

Private messages are private. No moderator or administrator can read your PMs. The only way we ever see a private message that isn’t ours is if it is forwarded to us and reported by the recipient as against guidelines (e.g., it’s spam, it’s abusive).

[Mopey]

DocJohn, (or anyone) - what is a PM?

Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Private messages are private. No moderator or administrator can read your PMs. The only way we ever see a private message that isn’t ours is if it is forwarded to us and reported by the recipient as against guidelines (e.g., it’s spam, it’s abusive).

Does this mean if we PM a moderator, all the mods and admins can see the PM but if it's to another member you can't?

Am I making stuff up/misunderstanding?

Originally Posted by Mopey

DocJohn, (or anyone) - what is a PM?

Private message

You see at the top right of the screen it says this?

Welcome, whispershadow.
You last visited: Today at 04:46 PM
Private Messages: Unread 0, Total 1070.
My Mood:

(in your case it says welcome mopey)

Where it says private messages up there click on it and it opens them

[-jimi-]

Originally Posted by whispershadow

Does this mean if we PM a moderator, all the mods and admins can see the PM but if it's to another member you can't?

Am I making stuff up/misunderstanding?

It means no moderator can read a PM unless the member the PM was sent to, is sent to a moderator. It has to be forwarded for "them" to see it.

Feels good to know.

But if only the moderator can see what you said, or all, it does not say. But I assume whether all can see it or not, they are free to discuss it between moderators.

So all PMs to moderators or admin go to one giant inbox and they all read the PMs to each other?

I'm scaring myself again, do I need to try relax or am I right that there's a giant inbox it all goes to if it's to a mod?

[Mopey]

Originally Posted by whispershadow

Private message

You see at the top right of the screen it says this?

Welcome, whispershadow.
You last visited: Today at 04:46 PM
Private Messages: Unread 0, Total 1070.
My Mood:

(in your case it says welcome mopey)

Where it says private messages up there click on it and it opens them

Thanks WhisperShadow. I love your name!

[MickeyCheeky]

I don't think moderators can see your PMs. That's been the case for every forum I've ever been. That's why they always ask users for help when something happened through PMs only

[-jimi-]

Originally Posted by whispershadow

So all PMs to moderators or admin go to one giant inbox and they all read the PMs to each other?

I'm scaring myself again, do I need to try relax or am I right that there's a giant inbox it all goes to if it's to a mod?

I have a feeling that they go to separate moderators inboxes. Because when I had a question and PM'd them, the same one got back to me.

[-jimi-]

CAN WE BREATHE NOW?

Whew. I don't know why I catastrophize. I apologize for that. I can sometimes just snap into this mood where EEP it's all wrong it will never be right!!!

I need to work on that.

sorry I added to the freakout in this thread

I'm expecting us to get yelled at for it

[atisketatasket]

Originally Posted by -jimi-

I have a feeling that they go to separate moderators inboxes. Because when I had a question and PM'd them, the same one got back to me.

Yes, we all have separate inboxes. There is no giant inbox where all messages to moderators go.

amandalouise asked about this sentence in the OP:

Remember that discussing administrative actions in a PM is against the Community Guidelines.

What that means is discussing a PM involving administrative actions publicly. The guidelines prohibit posts about:

• Messages discussing a private message (PM) from others
• All administrative issues

Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Yes, we all have separate inboxes. There is no giant inbox where all messages to moderators go.

amandalouise asked about this sentence in the OP:


What that means is discussing a PM involving administrative actions publicly. The guidelines prohibit posts about:

• Messages discussing a private message (PM) from others
• All administrative issues

So if we either don't understand a PM we get from a mod or admin we're allowed to ask in PM?

Am I allowed to say I have a really hard time reading really long PMs? What I describe as motorway length PMs cause I get halfway then my brain turns it to word salad and goes into information overload?

[-jimi-]

Maybe you need to clarify the rule so not wrong things can be read into it.

[Turtleboy]

just to clarify guys if you have trouble with a pm, any of you can ask any moderator or admin about the content

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by Anonymous29402

I freak out every time I see a pm from admin then read it and relax lmao....

I wish I had been that lucky. I always get anxiety when I get pm from a monitor.

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by Turtleboy

just to clarify guys if you have trouble with a pm, any of you can ask any moderator or admin about the content

Ok! I didn't know that!

[Turtleboy]

yes of course, lol we are not the bad guys just members like the rest that have been here and wanted to help out, naturally we appreciate everybody is different and have troubles with different things, we are happy to answer questions

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by whispershadow

I thought PM meant PRIVATE message? Not public everyone can read it message?

This is only going to feed my paranoia issues if they can read our messages

PMs should only be seen by two people in my opinion, the person who sends it (how else would they type it up if they didn't read what they was typing?) and the person getting the PM

Please don't read all my PMs, it's bad enough three knowing when I'm saying anything let alone the mods and admins reading all my PMs as well

My inbox is not for reading up what I'm chatting about with friends on the forum

Please stay out of my inbox

Exactly I just discover this myself!

If we switch our own PMs off, maybe they then can't read our PMs

[emgreen]

Originally Posted by Turtleboy

...we are not the bad guys...

Don't let Turtleboy fool you! He's bad to the bone!

I know many on the boards here are very sensitive & struggle with anxiety, but everyone has a completely anonymous screen name. No one knows who "emgreen" is, so even if I write something nasty about Turtleboy, he can't fly over from Ireland & beat my arse (he's a wuss anyways)! Thus (and this is just me), it's not really a great matter if someone happens upon a PM. I hope this perspective helps some of the people suffering from anxiety. I've never encountered an evil mod (with the exception of Turtleboy, that is).