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Feb 12, 2011, 05:49 PM
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I am asking for prayers for my daughter, who called this morning to tell me that her husband had his hands around her neck when they got into a fight the other night. Her husband is a real control freak. Their toddler brought "Daddy" her dirty diaper, and he freaked out, blaming my daughter for not watching her every minute. Unreasonable expectation to say the least. I am proud to say that my daughter is an excellent mother. She is trying to find another place to leave, but for now staying with her husband is her only option other than a shelter. I live just far enough away that I am limited in what I can do, and we don't have room for J and her daughter where we are. Sigh... Dear God, please protect J and K, until they can find a safer place to be.
EJ 
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Feb 12, 2011, 07:08 PM
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I will EJ!
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Feb 12, 2011, 09:10 PM
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EJ prayers said for them all. I hope she finds safety very soon. I hope this can be the beginning of a better, and safer, life for your daughter and grandaughter.
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Feb 12, 2011, 09:34 PM
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Dear EJ, If you put yourself in the position of your grandchild, imagine what they will learn from mommy being abused by daddy? My advice would be to have your daughter call the police the next time it happens. Your daughter will regain her power and self worth, her children will know that she will do what is right to protect them and if he does return to the home, he will know that this is unacceptable behavior that will not be tolerated. Find a womans resource center in her community where she could learn from other innocent women that have been there before!
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Feb 12, 2011, 10:07 PM
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Praying hard on your daughter's behalf. I know what it is like to be in that situation.
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Feb 13, 2011, 01:06 PM
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Beyond123,
Thank you for your thoughtful note. We adopted our daughter when she was 12, and she comes from a family where she and her siblings were neglected and abused. The complications to the current situation are: 1) they are living in his great-grandmother's home, and 2) both my daughter and her common law husband are on probation, I believe, for criminal battery to each other from a couple of years ago. J's husband manipulated his great-grandmother a month ago to throw J out, and she stayed with a friend and her husband, and two children. My little grand daughter got too stressed out being with the two other children who are spoiled and mean, so she was able to return to her husband's great-grandmother's house. Her husband's grandmother is trying to make room for them at her house, and my daughter has applied for HUD housing, but everything is moving slowly. I have encouraged her to consider a woman's shelter, but she has not decided to take that step yet. She lives over an hour away from me, but I am teaching more classes this semester than I usually do, and our truck (which we use to haul water to our home) is getting up there in miles, and we haven't finished paying for it. They have gone for some counseling. I know maybe I can call around, and find a place. Thank you for caring and posting ~ EJ Quote:
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Feb 13, 2011, 02:22 PM
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you got it hon! normally if hud authority knows she is trying to get away from abusive stuff they will try to move a little faster. good luck to you and the family.
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Feb 13, 2011, 04:16 PM
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Thanks, Bee!
Bee and Everyone, I was able to reach my daughter by phone today, and everything was calm and lovely with Valentine's Day being tomorrow. Her husband bought her a new used car yesterday, so now at least she has a vehicle to escape in if things should take a turn for the worse again. That's the strange thing about domestic abuse I think. Things go along peacefully for awhile, then something happens and it flares up again. It is like a fire that won't go completely out. EJ  Quote:
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Feb 14, 2011, 07:37 PM
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that is true and you never know when it will rear its ugly head again or when it will not end up so good. I pray she gets out soon.
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Feb 14, 2011, 08:10 PM
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oh EJ, I know what you mean about the rollarcoaster of domestic violence. Still praying for them. I am glad that Bebop said what she did about HUD moving " a little faster" if they know the situation requires it. I will keep praying for them. And I know you are doing all you can.
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Feb 17, 2011, 11:19 PM
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sending many prayers for your family's safety. it's a very scary situation and sometimes we have to "plan our escape" and it takes time to get things in order to find and get to a safe place.
 
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Feb 20, 2011, 03:34 AM
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Hello, EJ711. The cycle of abuse is so devastating: http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/dom...4/METHOD=print
http://psychcentral.com/lib/2006/ste...stic-violence/ http://www.thehotline.org/ I shall pray. |
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Feb 25, 2011, 07:41 PM
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Feb 25, 2011, 07:44 PM
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Thank you for the link and your response. May I ask where you call home? EJ
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Feb 25, 2011, 07:49 PM
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Feb 26, 2011, 01:21 AM
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prayers for protection of your daughter & child & also the husband i myself have been in a relationship like this & it is a cycle needless to say ive posted different places about some of my experiences & my husband & i r separated & God is working right on schedule as its taken a year for things to sink into him but it has just very thankful tonite 4 so many things God has done & His protection & i prayed the same for ur daughter & child & yes her husband cuz even though our relationship was bad i still pray for him cuz thats what God wants i know & leave the rest up to Him
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