[Maven]

Those of you who know me know I'm not a religious person. However, my mother is, and for her, I'm asking those of you who do so, to keep her in your prayers. She has several terrible health ailments, including congestive heart failure, bad kidneys, obesity, diabetes, asthma/COPD, and more. She never feels good or okay anymore, and she thinks her time may be near. She was recently in the hospital and is currently in a physical rehab. She gets confused a lot, and I've long thought she has an anxiety disorder and other mental issues. (She's never been diagnosed.) She feels hurt that many people she has known don't ask about her, come to visit her or call. She was hurt because my boyfriend's pastor called him at home about getting a phone system they've installed to work, wondering if my boyfriend might stop by after work to help them "monkey around" with it, and I didn't tell him to pray for her. (I don't even know this pastor, or go to my boyfriend's church, so it certainly never occurred to me to ask him to pray for my mom, let alone anyone else. I just took a message about the phone and didn't think anything regarding my mom, because I don't have anything to do with my bf's church.) She thinks nobody cares about her (even though I visit her often and call her everyday). My sister lives in another state and has health problems herself, so she can't travel, but she also calls at times. Problem is, I don't know if it's my mom's hearing (which has gotten worse as she got older) or the phones at the rehab, but I literally scream into the phone when she doesn't hear me, and she still doesn't usually hear me. She asks me if certain people have called me to ask about her, but they only use my number if there's an emergency; I don't think it's because they don't care about her. I don't know most of them, so I wouldn't expect them to call me.

I haven't been around here lately, or anywhere on the Internet, because of several reasons, but I wanted to post this for my mom. Thanks to you who pray for her and send good thoughts.

[sabby]

(((((((((( Maven & Mom ))))))))))))

I'm so sorry to hear of your mom's illnesses and all. I will keep you both in my prayers.

Maybe you could ask at the rehab if your mom seems to be having hearing issues or if their phone system is not working properly.

I remember when my mom was ill with cancer, many of her friends didn't come around or call during that time. It made me angry because I knew it hurt my mom's feelings. I came to realize later on that those things happen mainly because those friends don't know what to say or do and sometimes they are just scared.

Maybe you can get your mom some notes and envelopes and stamps and she can write to her friends. That may help her not to feel forgotten and that there is still connection. They may even send a card or note back to her and that would be something she could hold onto and look at and read when she's feeling lonely.

Take good care of yourself and know that I hope the best for you and your mom.

[avlady]

That's a good idea to write letters!! I said a rosary like i do every day and i will dedicate it for your mother!!!

[tohelpafriend]

I will pray for her. It doesn't matter if no one seems to care, they never really do, because God is aware of exactly where she is and what she trusts Him for.
I do hope you can visit her, our kids are a great comfort when we see them.

[Maven]

Thank you, all. I'm not on the computer much these days, but I haven't forgotten you all, and I really appreciate your caring words and compassion. The letters are a great idea, and I'll suggest it to her. It seems nothing I do is right for her, and she gets mad at every little thing I do, including repeating what she says to make sure I understood her. My sister reports the same thing to me. I know it's because she's old and her mind isn't as sharp as it used to be. She says she's not scared of dying, but I don't know whether to believe it. I could certainly understand if she is, because I sure am. I visit her often, usually for over an hour, but yesterday, I could only stay a few minutes, and she told me I never stay long. I hate that she's in the rehab, but I don't know what to talk about for hours on end, and I have to get home and take care of things here sometimes. She snipes at almost everything I say or do, and I'm really trying to do right by her. She gets mad because I can't do certain things because of my OCD. Her roommate (who, it turns out, is my cousin's wife's aunt or something like that) keeps asking personal questions about my OCD when I'm not in the mood to talk about it. Yesterday, she said, "Don't take this the wrong way, but have you thought about seeing a psychiatrist?" I told her I've been seeing psychiatrists for over 30 years!!! (Actually, over 35.) She asked me if they could give me meds, and I informed her there is no cure for OCD, and I'm on several meds. My mom's roommate gets on my nerves, and my mom has told me she does get on her nerves, too. I feel sorry my mom has to be roomed with her.

Thanks again for all your good wishes and prayers. I hope my mom can get out of there soon and back home (although there's an issue with that now, too, but I won't go into it for now).

[Fuzzybear]