[Gavinandnikki]

My sister died unexpectedly, 3 weeks ago. She left a mess. I am having to clean up the mess.

I have tried praying, begging, pleading everything I can think of - for her to communicate with me what she wants.

I am not religious. I believe in God.

What the hell is my sister doing that she can not give me one friggin clue about what to do? Not one tiny sign?

Are you so busy after you die that you have no time for the living? Or are you just gone?

I can't figure it out! I need her help - and she won't even come to me in my dreams.

[Angelique67]

Maybe you're trying so hard that you're missing more subtle clues? When my best friend died he communicated to me through an old man once on the street. (He told me to quit smoking, but not in those words). And there were other little signs. The communications don't come the way you wish they would though. After about a year, he was gone from doing that anymore. I'm very sorry for your loss.

[(JD)]

If she didn't leave a testament or even a journal note, letter whatever as to what to do with her things, then perhaps it really didn't matter to her OR she had complete confidence that whatever you did would be fine.

Do the easier stuff first. If there are things that have memories connected to them, put them last...and if you still need to dispense with them, take a picture first and that helps keep the memory.

Sometimes our own frustration blocks energies.... sometimes there just isn't any sense of what to do regardless. Don't beat yourself up over your decision making. She made her choices and her leaving things a mess should not upset your life... What is the old adage, "Procrastination on your part does not constitute an emergency upon my part."

Do your best, that's all you can do.

[unaluna]

With my mother's passing, I found it helpful to talk with the other possible people involved, such as my brother, her sister, and her nieces and nephews. You find out their expectations and desires and more about their relationship, and that helps you make a decision. Plus it doesnt have to be decided all at once. Altho i know with you there is a distance issue.

[darkNeon]

Originally Posted by Gavinandnikki

My sister died unexpectedly, 3 weeks ago. She left a mess. I am having to clean up the mess.

I have tried praying, begging, pleading everything I can think of - for her to communicate with me what she wants.

I am not religious. I believe in God.

What the hell is my sister doing that she can not give me one friggin clue about what to do? Not one tiny sign?

Are you so busy after you die that you have no time for the living? Or are you just gone?

I can't figure it out! I need her help - and she won't even come to me in my dreams.

Firstly, that is tragedy and speaks enormously on you as person to be taking responsibility. I don't think it is very healthy to become angry over your recent sister's transition & her "lack" of providing you w/ supernatural experiences....

I think you are doing the right thing, and perhaps that's why the sky has not parted. Perhaps your sister is proud of you, as well as God.

[*Laurie*]

I'm so, so sorry you've lost your sister.

I've lost a lot of family members and I've found that it takes quite a bit of time before they come to me in my dreams.