[sabby]

My family and extended family are in desperate need of many prayers and positive thoughts as we work through some very difficult times right now.

I rarely post anything here asking for prayers and good thoughts, but I feel the need to release a bit of what is going on and need support in return. I know I'm a strong and confident person (most times) but right now, I'm not feeling so strong and confident...I'm feeling very small and beaten down at the moment (metaphorically I mean).

First issue - My youngest daughter is expecting her first child in February. So far all looks good with the pregnancy. Unfortunately, the daddy was having some issues 2 weeks ago (on going, he just finally went to the ER). A CT scan was done on his head. The hospital called on Monday and had to schedule him for an MRI as they have found a cyst in his brain. They gave no other information...size...placement....nothing (of course he didn't think to ask either). We get this information on the anniversary of my mom's passing from brain cancer 27 years ago. *sigh* I pray this is not history repeating itself. Prayers needed to help him and all of us through the process.

Second issue - Both my daughters came home yesterday afternoon and asked me to log off the computer they needed to talk to me. So I did that, turned to my oldest daughter, looked at her and said "I know what you are going to say, you are going to tell me you are pregnant!" And sure enough.....she is!!! Imagine, having both daughters pregnant at the same time...their children should be about 4 months apart in age. How wonderful!!! Now, since my oldest has had 2 miscarriages very early on in the first trimester (last one this past January) we are somewhat concerned. More hopeful though knowing that she is headed into her 3rd month this week. It does seem like she will have a viable pregnancy this time. Prayers are definitely needed for this little one!

Third issue - Not 1/2 hour after celebrating the good news of my oldest's pregnancy, she got online only to find out that the dad of my grandson was killed in an auto accident in NC early Tuesday morning We have very little information at this time. Having to sit down and tell my beloved grandson that his daddy is gone was the hardest thing we've ever had to do. There is a long history of his father having grandiose ideas, never following through on them and hurting this child to the core when the father takes off without so much as a goodbye, I love you or any explanation. Larz has some real anger issues over his dad and now this. Larz will never be able to tell his father face to face how he feels and dang it all.....it's just not fair that now he has to go through this. He's had so much happen in his young life....it's time for some peace and love and growth. Prayers needed so very much for this little boy who is so hurt and so confused and I can't type anymore through my tears.........

Thank you all who answer this post, who send prayers and positive thoughts. We are blessed to have so many acknowleging our pain and wanting to help in our healing.


sabby

[(JD)]

You surely are in need of prayer! May God give you guidance in all these things.

I pulled a link on the cyst, it doesn't look good. http://pregnancy.about.com/gi/dynami....co.uk/cpc.htm

God is in control. God IS in control. I've asked that He make things good for you all.

[reddevil]

I'll be thinking of your family.

[silentandscared]

(((((( sabby and extended family)))))))))))

my heart goes out to you all
sending prayers and positve thoughts to you all

may you all find strength within each other through these very difficult timescomfort and listen to each other and all the love and hope will find its way through


mandyx

[sabby]

(((((((((((((((( Sky )))))))))))))))))

Thank you so very much for your caring and support. I'm sorry but I think you may have misunderstood about the cyst....it's not my pregnant daughter who has the cyst, it is her b/f, the babies' daddy....it's in his brain But I do thank you for the link and trying to help

You are right...God IS in control....there is no doubt in my mind. It is comforting to me. And even though it is comforting...as a human with faults, my mind does think of "what ifs" and travels down paths that are scary and sad to think about. But I'm working on it!


sabby

[sabby]

Thank you very much (((((((((((((((( Reddevil )))))))))))))))) your thoughts mean very much to me!


sabby

[sabby]

(((((((((((((((((((( S a S )))))))))))))))))))))))))

You are so right....our love will get us through...along with thoughts and prayers from you and others. You all mean so much to me....I am so very blessed and grateful for you!


sabby

[cantstopcrying]

(((((((((((((sabby)))))))))))))) What a big plate you must have for God to have filled it so full!! My girls and I will keep you and your family in our prayers. Please keep us updated if you feel you are able to.

[SeptemberMorn]

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Sabby}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} I"m so sorry, Hon! You and your family are in my prayers.

[KathyM]

((((Sabby)))) Your family is in my prayers.

[sabby]

(((((((((((((( cantstopcrying )))))))))))))))) I never looked at it that way...my plate being big and thats why the lord can hand me so much to handle. Ok, I'm up for it.....but please....help me find a time when I can carry a small plate and regroup from the weight of carrying the big plate now and again *sigh*

((((((((((((((((((( tomi )))))))))))))))))))))) Thank you dear one. It means the world to me and mine *tears*

((((((((((((((((( KathyM ))))))))))))))))) You have helped me to feel better and I so appreciate your thoughts and prayers....thank you!


sabby

[(JD)]

OH! Sorry I did misunderstand. That's much more hopeful! Unless it's inside a malignant tumor, they are usually benign! Let's pray that way.

[Lenny]

Dear sabby,

I can only say that you are surrounded by hearts that care. Your family is so lucky to have one such as you who can see past the events to when the lessens will be realized.

Blessings are seldom unfetered..for I have found that nothing of great value is free...but it does seem at times that we are all paying a very high price...

All will be as it should be...

You are all in my prayers..

Always,

Lenny

[katheryn]

my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family as these things are sent to try you

(((((((((((((sabby and family)))))))))))))))))))))

(((sabby)))))))))) My friend awwwwwwwwww
So many things all at once...
First so sorry for grandsons loss and yours
hes so young my heart goes out to him.
My prayers are with him and his mom and you
Also prayers for the daddy of the baby may everything turn out ok

Having 2 daughters pregent awwwwwwwww
I will pray for them both
FOr the one extra prayers

For you my dear a special prayer.... thats alot to handle
All my hugs to your whole family
muffy

[sabby]

((((((((((( Sky ))))))))))) It's quite alright....thank you! I did a lot of reading about brain cysts 2 years ago when my youngest was dx'ed with one. Hers is in the corpus collasum and usually, they are asymptomatic for a lifetime. She needs MRI's every year to check the size. As you can imagine, if hers does grow and symptoms appear, the surgery to remove her cyst would be extremely difficult as to the placement. As for her b/f's cyst, if it doesn't give him symptoms it wouldn't be much of a problem, unforunately, that is not the case, he does have symptoms - headaches, numbness and tingling in his arms and hands and his legs are affected...sometimes it feels as if he has no legs and his gait is really off. He's almost fallen a number of times and had a few times when he could barely walk So that is a worry.

((((((((((( Lenny ))))))))))) Your words are always heartfelt and compassionate....thank you dear man. I am surrounded by so much love and friendship and I am so blessed to have friends like you!

(((((((((((( Katheryn )))))))))))))) Thank you sweety.....you mean so much to me as does your support!

((((((((((( muffster )))))))))))) You keep me going and keep me honest....thank you for your positive support and friendship....I so appreciate the sheep!


sabby

[SweetSunshine]

Wish I could tell you everything will work out ok. Been there with the brain tumor stuff with my nephew and its not an easy road. I hope with all my heart that things go well for your daughters boyfriend. And both your daughters pregnancies. Nothing like having new babies in the house to love and cherish. And I'm sorry about Larz's father. What a heartache it is to see him going thru this. Remember that he's got the stability of a good mom and auntie and a wonderful grandmother to help him thru this. And as hard as it may be to do, you guys can always let him know the good things about his father. Even if they are hard to come by. That will show him that he can have good memorires instead of all the bad.

My thoughts and prayers are always with you and your family Sabby. This is incredibly overwhelming time for you. Lean on us all here. Let us take care of you during all of this. Its the least we can do since you've been here for so many of us when we go thru the badtimes in life.

Luv ya
Beth

[multipixie9]

sabby you have been so supportive and i hope it all comes back to you and your family in truckloads. just a side note.
my C who helps me had both her teen daughters come to
her one week apart with news of their pregnancies and oh
my that was such a hard situation. but i know how they have
turned out and things are good with them and God has helped them work through all kinds of issues and both are
now married and doing well. it is so tough when kids do
just exactly what they wish the kids wouldn't do.

i'm so sorry for Larz, that is a tough blow on all counts, but God did say that He would be a Father to the Fatherless and a Husband to the widows. So special attention will come to
help them out now and in future.

i will pray for you all, i know this is ongoing and will need lots of prayer. please keep posting so we can all hold you up in
our prayers. hugs dear!!

((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((sabby ))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

Wow, you have a lot going on. I will hold you and your family in my .

Read the quote in my signature.....sometimes it's true.

[sabby]

Well, tonight is Justin's funeral. My poor grandbaby and daughter having to go through this. My heart just aches so very badly for my grandson. I can barely keep tears out of my eyes at any given time. I have decided I will be there with them even though my girls have told me I don't have to go. I can't not be there for them. Larz and I have always had a very close relationship and even though he has his mom and aunty and Justin's family (which he knows little about & hasn't seen much of them over the years) I know he will need his grammies hugs and understanding, love and patience.

My heart is just broken over this......just broken

[silentandscared]

((((((((sabbyand family))))))))))


in our hearts and thoughts during these difficult times.
lots of huggies and love for your precious grandson and daughter
sabby take good care of you too
mandyxx

[Tired12]

(((((((((((sabby and extended family))))))))))))

[sabby]

(((((((((((((((( S and S )))))))))))))))) (((((((((((((((( Tired ))))))))))))))))

Thank you so very much for your kindness and support.


sabby

[eskielover]

((((((((((Sabby & family)))))))))))),

I am sorry I hadn't seen your post to respond to before now. I know how you feel. God always says that he doesn't give us more than we can handle.....but then he always ends up giving us support to help us handle what he has given us also....so we don't have to handle it alone.

Congratulations on being a grandma 2 more times close together.....how exciting......I do pray that your daughter who has had the miscarriages will have a successful pregancy this time. Also pray that the cyst in your son-in-laws brain will end up being NOT serious.

I think the important thing to think about for Larz & loosing his daddy, is that God has done it for a porpose that isn't understood at this point in time. It might just be the best way for Larz to be free from a father like that.....& may just be what he really needs for his life to become full of the peace that he truely deserves. With you love & peaceful protection during this time to show him that he really is ok & that it's ok to let go of the anger rather than dragging in along with him all his life. Letting him know that love & carring rather than disappearing acts & disappointments are really the norm & that phase of his life is also over now that his is gone. I know people hate to think that all they remember is the bad about someone.....but sometimes, that's just the way it is......those people are the ones to just let go of & get on with life....even if they were family.

He is blessed to have your love to let him really know what love is.

Praying for your peace also,
Debbie

[sabby]

((((((((((( Debbie )))))))))))))))

Thank you so very much for responding and your thoughts hon. I have to agree with you on all points. I know it was way past time for the negative and hurtful behaviors of my grandson's father to stop. He had no recognition of how hurtful he was to his son and to my daughter as well. I don't believe his intent was to ever hurt his son, but there were times he lashed out at my daughter to hurt her....and he usually succeeded. I have tried for years to help her through the behaviors and hurtful words and get her to realize that when Justin felt the most guilty is when he lashed out at her and did everything in his power to get to her. He never followed through on one single threat he ever made to my daughter...in the 10+ years we have known him he has been full of baloney. Alas, we will never have to go through that again with him. It is unfortunate that his death was the only way we could see that happen

My grandson......oh my, how proud I am of him. He went through the wake/service with more class, compassion, love and positiveness then most adults could muster. My heart just overflows with pride and love for him right now. He touched every single person by his strength and his insight. He is a brilliant child and I can see him being a very successful person in his lifetime.


sabby