[en__ry]

My boyfriend (now ex) has schizoaffective disorder and he's on meds, but keeps drinking on them. About a month and half ago, while he was having an episode with delusions and allucinations, he dumped me out of the blue and without a reason, when the day before was making plans with me and telling I don't have to find another guy. He accused me of having my face changed (he often has delusions about face). Plus he switched his phone off and started to ignore me when we met on the street, acting like he hated me. I was destroyed. This went on for over 3 weeks, then he phoned me. He was quite delusional and said I have to forgive him, he doesn't remember why he dumped me and he hopes I'm gonna find another man. Then kept ignoring me on the street, and this made me really confused. And now I'm even more confused, because 3 days after this he phoned again telling "you have to vent with me". I was busy and asked him to call later, but when he called and I answered, he hung up. He didn't call me anymore. 2 weeks have already passed, and now it's like he hates me because I met him once on the street and he changed his way. I'm very confused, I miss him so much and I'm deeply depressed. Everyday I hope he phones, but he doesn't. What's happening in his mind? Is this the illness? I really want to help, but I don't know how! When I see him on the street, passing by car, he's always acting strangely. Sings, laughs, talks with himself, asks for money and cigarettes and collects butts. I'm so worried, but I don't know what to do...I'm looking for someone who is in the same situation or has this illness himself. Thank you so much for the answers, I'm sorry for my English as it's not my first language.

[schizoaffective]

The meds cannot work properly if he keeps drinking alcohol.

Ask him to quit drinking and give the meds a chance to take effect.

If he is not prepared to try this, he may be rather difficult to help.

Try writing him a letter telling him how concerned you are, and gently asking him to give himself a chance to live a better life.

[nbritton]

Originally Posted by en__ry

My boyfriend (now ex) has schizoaffective disorder and he's on meds, but keeps drinking on them. About a month and half ago, while he was having an episode with delusions and allucinations, he dumped me out of the blue and without a reason, when the day before was making plans with me and telling I don't have to find another guy. He accused me of having my face changed (he often has delusions about face). Plus he switched his phone off and started to ignore me when we met on the street, acting like he hated me. I was destroyed. This went on for over 3 weeks, then he phoned me. He was quite delusional and said I have to forgive him, he doesn't remember why he dumped me and he hopes I'm gonna find another man. Then kept ignoring me on the street, and this made me really confused. And now I'm even more confused, because 3 days after this he phoned again telling "you have to vent with me". I was busy and asked him to call later, but when he called and I answered, he hung up. He didn't call me anymore. 2 weeks have already passed, and now it's like he hates me because I met him once on the street and he changed his way. I'm very confused, I miss him so much and I'm deeply depressed. Everyday I hope he phones, but he doesn't. What's happening in his mind? Is this the illness? I really want to help, but I don't know how! When I see him on the street, passing by car, he's always acting strangely. Sings, laughs, talks with himself, asks for money and cigarettes and collects butts. I'm so worried, but I don't know what to do...I'm looking for someone who is in the same situation or has this illness himself. Thank you so much for the answers, I'm sorry for my English as it's not my first language.

Give him a copy of what you just wrote.

[scardycat]

Originally Posted by en__ry

My boyfriend (now ex) has schizoaffective disorder and he's on meds, but keeps drinking on them. About a month and half ago, while he was having an episode with delusions and allucinations, he dumped me out of the blue and without a reason, when the day before was making plans with me and telling I don't have to find another guy. He accused me of having my face changed (he often has delusions about face). Plus he switched his phone off and started to ignore me when we met on the street, acting like he hated me. I was destroyed. This went on for over 3 weeks, then he phoned me. He was quite delusional and said I have to forgive him, he doesn't remember why he dumped me and he hopes I'm gonna find another man. Then kept ignoring me on the street, and this made me really confused. And now I'm even more confused, because 3 days after this he phoned again telling "you have to vent with me". I was busy and asked him to call later, but when he called and I answered, he hung up. He didn't call me anymore. 2 weeks have already passed, and now it's like he hates me because I met him once on the street and he changed his way. I'm very confused, I miss him so much and I'm deeply depressed. Everyday I hope he phones, but he doesn't. What's happening in his mind? Is this the illness? I really want to help, but I don't know how! When I see him on the street, passing by car, he's always acting strangely. Sings, laughs, talks with himself, asks for money and cigarettes and collects butts. I'm so worried, but I don't know what to do...I'm looking for someone who is in the same situation or has this illness himself. Thank you so much for the answers, I'm sorry for my English as it's not my first language.

Hi my ex has schizoaffective disorder he only found out about 12 months ago and before he found out he had this illness he did exactly the same thing to me just dumped me out of no where. By text He would just turn up out of the blue when hed been drinking and accuse me of all sorts of stuff. He also said to me that he would be happy for me to find someone else then when I saw him a few days later he too would act as if he didnt even know me. Even swear at me in the street hed ring me then just hang up over and over again. If Id ring him 2 see if he was ok he would just hang up even turn his phone off. Then Id finely speak to him and hed want me back then in the next breath say something nasty and cruel. He too would asks for money and cigarettes and collects butts. I too was so worried had no idea at that time what was going on. Everything you wrote in your post is exactly the same as my ex and when he was finely treated his psychologist said that his actions and the way he behaved are all part of the illness. He 2 stills drink while taking medication but only a small amount now.
he now is medicated and he seems to be more like hes own self. He does believe that he wont have to have hes meds forever but thats not completely true. SC

[worthit]

Unfortunately alcohol or drugs make the illness worse.I have Schizoaffective and am on meds. I know I'm not supposed to drink on the meds so I don't. Its too difficult having an illness like this and worrying about being out of control as well from drugs or alcohol.

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[en__ry]

Originally Posted by scardycat

Hi my ex has schizoaffective disorder he only found out about 12 months ago and before he found out he had this illness he did exactly the same thing to me just dumped me out of no where. By text He would just turn up out of the blue when hed been drinking and accuse me of all sorts of stuff. He also said to me that he would be happy for me to find someone else then when I saw him a few days later he too would act as if he didnt even know me. Even swear at me in the street hed ring me then just hang up over and over again. If Id ring him 2 see if he was ok he would just hang up even turn his phone off. Then Id finely speak to him and hed want me back then in the next breath say something nasty and cruel. He too would asks for money and cigarettes and collects butts. I too was so worried had no idea at that time what was going on. Everything you wrote in your post is exactly the same as my ex and when he was finely treated his psychologist said that his actions and the way he behaved are all part of the illness. He 2 stills drink while taking medication but only a small amount now.
he now is medicated and he seems to be more like hes own self. He does believe that he wont have to have hes meds forever but thats not completely true. SC

Thank you so much for the answer. Yes, they use to say cruel things. My boyfriend accused me of cheating on him and said he didn't care about me. How much this call-and-hang up thing did last? Are you still together?

[en__ry]

Originally Posted by nbritton

Give him a copy of what you just wrote.

I wish I could. Unfortunately he seems insensitive to everything, even his own health. Is this due to the illness?

[en__ry]

Originally Posted by worthit

Unfortunately alcohol or drugs make the illness worse.I have Schizoaffective and am on meds. I know I'm not supposed to drink on the meds so I don't. Its too difficult having an illness like this and worrying about being out of control as well from drugs or alcohol.

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I think he has severe problems of addiction. Years ago he was a junkie, then got detoxified and started with alcohol and pot. So I assume he's not going to get better until he quits drinking?

[worthit]

Yup

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