[lucidity11]

My 33 year old son is in a constant delusional state. He can manage to work when he has a job. And that seems to pull him back into the real world to function. When he does not have a job he falls into his delusional world which can sometimes be dangerous for me. This time I called him out on him telling me he may have to poison me to protect ......... who knows what. I am trying to not take his disdain for me personally but it is so hurtful. I have thought of staying away from him but I am concerned he will fall even deeper into his delusions. He did go to a therapist after this latest event but I don't think he is going anymore. Either way he wouldn't tell me if he was. I just don't know what to do. I truly believe he will end up homeless if I don't keep contact with him but it is starting to take a real toll on me. I love my son with my life and I feel helpless.

[Angelique67]

Hi, lucidity. I'm wondering if maybe you could call the police to make a wellness check on your son.

Possibly, if they believe your son might be threatening you and others, they can bring him to an ER to be assessed. It would be up to the hospital (probably a clinician) after that, as to whether or how long they will keep him for treatment.

I wish you the best of luck and safety for your family.

[Victoria'smom]

Get a therapist yourself for support.

[lucidity11]

Originally Posted by Miguel'smom

Get a therapist yourself for support.

I have one. I just needed to express my thoughts and pain after spending time with my son. Thanks

[lucidity11]

I am no longer speaking to my son. I can't get past the idea that he could kill me. He thought nothing about it at all. The other day he treated me with disdain and disrespect that I know all to well. I have given him a place to live, and money. I can't do anymore. I can't trade my sanity for his love. I hope he get the help he needs because I can't help him. I love him but I am done. Totally done.

[AlphabetSoup247]

Lucidity.....hugs and love to you for what you are going through. My 23 year old brother is schizoaffective and acts the same way towards my mom. He is verbally abusive and hateful towards her (but he's never threatened her). I don't know your whole story, so I can't speculate too much, but I can ask you not to give up on him. If he's threatening to harm you, or himself, you can have him taken to your local emergency room for a psych eval (like Angelique said). It probably won't be a pleasant situation, but that might be what he needs. Believe me, I know it's easier said than done, but try to remember that his actions aren't completely him...he's responding to whatever he's experiencing in his mind.

[Nix]

Sorry you are going through this difficult time.

[Zaria]

Lucidity, my husband and I are in a similar situation. Our son has had several episodes of being delusional and had to be hospitalized because of it a few times. He's gotten violent on several occasions in the past. Thankfully he has been able to control himself and there has been no physical violence for the last 2 1/2 yrs, BUT there are some other conditions going on (currently) that worry us and are not good for him . We are a little wary of confronting him on these issues while he is not currently doing well mentally. I totally agree with the advice AlphabetSoup gave, SAID: we need to "try to remember his actions aren't completely him- he's responding to whatever he's experiencing in his head". Yes-It can seem like they have become a different person; not the son you know and love. Of course YOU certainly need to take steps and do what you need to do to keep yourself SAFE. If you ever DO find yourself needing to request help from the police dept.(Hope you never have to , but it happens.) I would recommend that you make sure to tell them before they even arrive that you are dealing with a family member that has been diagnosed or may be having delusions. He'll likely be taken in for a psych evaluation at the local hospital. I would not recommend doing this however unless it is an absolute emergency situation and someone is in real physical danger!
I am sorry you (and your son) are going through this. It can be overwhelming even when there is no violence involved, because you worry for their future; wondering what to do, if or how to help. Like you, one of my biggest worries is what will happen and how my son will survive when we're no longer around. We live in an urban area where there are so many mentally ill and homeless out on the streets.

[lazlo]

I am no longer speaking to my son.
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This may be the best thing for him. He needs to hit bottom before realizing
that something is wrong with him. Thats what it usually takes.
Sorry but supporting him may have done more harm than good.
Just my opinion