Not sure what topic this falls under...

Fleury29 · Mar 11, 2014, 01:41 AM

When I've been about town I've noticed the same guy looking at me, he's never close enough for me to see his face clearly, and always has, something that can conceal his face if he looks away or just keep me from identifying him if I do get a look, cell phone, sunglasses, mustache. Every so often I glare at him and don't see him for awhile. I saw him again today, on my walk. This time though he was driving, he pulled into a street parking spot facing me, watched me as I passed, I returned the favor, he looked away, but in a way that he could easily see me out of the corner of his eye. The first time I saw him I was working an event at a local park I noticed someone on a nearby hill appeared to be watching me, when I noticed him he very quickly received a call, and the entire 6 or so hours I was there talked on the phone, and paced. Am I being paranoid? Am I hallucinating? Should I be on meds?

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Mar 11, 2014, 06:19 AM

The fact that you are posting here , you have an idea what paranoia is. Now whether your suspicion is justified is anyones guess. Practically speaking , are you seeking professional help for any mental health problem? You also seem to be in the area of not having the ability to check and clarify if this guy is indeed suspicious. People who suffer delusions and paranoia begin to make assumptions because they can not clarify a situation in a practical and communicative way. Im not saying you should walk up to the person and start accusing him of anything. But you do say that something is always blocking you from getting a possitive profile of this person. He is either on the phone or his moustache is in the way. So I would say , does he have or does he not have a moustache. If the answer is sometimes , it becomes less believable.

Also why would someone be fallowing you , are you attractive? Is their any reason you can think of.

Bear in mind that truely paranoid people have especially odd reasons why they think they are being followed.

Regardless , I would talk to your gp or local docter and just get a sounding on it. Also have you spoken to a parent or trusted person about this. Communication is important.

faerie_moon_x · Mar 11, 2014, 10:24 AM

The question is, how do you know it's the same guy if you can't identify the way he looks? Can this be coincidence? Try to think this through. Is it possible you are making yourself hyper-aware in thinking someone is watching/following you, and so you are noticing men you happen to be looking in your direction and attribute it to being the same guy?

This can be a rocky road. If you are having low-grade paranoia or delusions you can actually talk yourself into them more if you're not careful. It seems you have some insight that maybe what's happening isn't realistic or logical or you wouldn't have posted here, and that's a good thing.

As the previous post said, what is the reason you think this person is following you? That's a key element.

Fleury29 · Mar 11, 2014, 12:30 PM

I really don't know, as I said he always looks away from me when I look at him, if he were a normal person what would his reaction be? Ignore me and keep going? The other thing that bugged me was that day in the park, he wasn't doing anything till I looked at him, then spent the whole time on the phone, was still on the phone when I left. Thanks for the advice.

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emeraldstars · Mar 11, 2014, 12:57 PM

Is it possible for it to be coincidence? That he just happens to be looking your way before he starts an activity? It's just a thought though it does seem a bit odd for it to be the same guy. Since you have not seen his face regularly is it possible that it isn't the same person but just seems like it? Just askin'.

Fleury29 · Mar 11, 2014, 01:29 PM

Possibly, which is why I asked here, he does have the same haircut when he's not wearing sunglasses, same eye color. Same build. But thanks, it's kind of freaky thinking someone may be following you for some unknown reason.

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faerie_moon_x · Mar 11, 2014, 02:54 PM

I'm going to say from how you've explained it does send up red flags for my reality checking. You are probably over attributing things.

*he didn't get on his phone until you looked at him. - Maybe he suddenly got a text/call from work or his wife/girlfriend. Or maybe he had just finished downloading a new game or news app and was really focused on it.

*Same haircut/eye color - this is a red flag because you aren't able to identify his face but can see his eye color. It could be false remembering or similar things are keying up your awareness (lots of guys in an area may have similar haircuts if it's in style.)

These types of things are important to consider for reality checking. If you're finding it difficult to believe any of these explanations, that's a red flag as well. Consider making an appointment with a therapist or a psychiatrist to discuss it if you're really struggling with it.