[Sometimes psychotic]

University of Miami, Psychology

So this is kind of neat you can see how you tend to cope with stress either for a particular event or your life or whatever. There are 14 different coping techniques and while they aren't rated good or bad you can make a self assessment on that. On the bad side you have to write everything down it's not self scoring.

Here are my scores for handling stress in the last week...8 is the hugest possible score and 2 is the lowest.

Self-distraction 7
Active coping 8
Denial 2
Substance use 2
Emotional support 4
Instrumental support 5
Behavioral disengagement 3
Venting 6
Positive reframing 5
Planning 8
Humor 2
Acceptance 7
Religion 2
Self-blame 5

So for me I would like to reduce self blame and venting and increase positive reframing, humor and emotional support. You get an idea what each is by reading the questions they are linked to...anyway thought it was useful since stress is often a trigger for thought loops and hallucinations...
I think this might be a more helpful approach than the anger management I was looking into because it's a more positive approach like you already have some skills but can do even better...

[newtus]

im not quite sure how to do this.

[Sometimes psychotic]

Originally Posted by newtus

im not quite sure how to do this.

So goto the page and answer the questions with points 1-4 based on the scale above the test as in don't do at all 1 do a little 2 do medium amount 3 do a lot 4 for each question number on a piece of paper then goto the section further above the test for scoring where it has each of the categories and for each of the two questions for each category add up your number score. That will give you a score of 2-8 for each category.

I really wish this was automated...I don't know why it's not..

[newtus]

Self-distraction 4
Active coping 4
Denial 2
Substance use 8
Use of emotional support 4
Use of instrumental support 6
Behavioral disengagement 7
Venting 5
Positive reframing 6
Planning 4
Humor 2
Acceptance 5
Religion 5
Self-blame 5

but whats this mean? assuming i did it right

[blackwhitered]

humor 8
self-distraction 8
acceptance 7
planning 6
behavioral disengagement 5
instrumental support 5
self-blame 5
denial 4
active coping 4

Everything else got a 2 or 3 so they're things I pretty much never do.

[Sometimes psychotic]

Originally Posted by newtus

Self-distraction 4
Active coping 4
Denial 2
Substance use 8
Use of emotional support 4
Use of instrumental support 6
Behavioral disengagement 7
Venting 5
Positive reframing 6
Planning 4
Humor 2
Acceptance 5
Religion 5
Self-blame 5

but whats this mean? assuming i did it right

So your strongest strategies are substance abuse and behavioral disengagement which is just quitting whatever you are trying to do both of which are a little on the negative side.
And I only know this from another video(not online) but the two strongest strategies are planning and social support both for instrumental and emotional basis. So if you have a problem instead of quitting or drinking why not try coming up with potential solutions for the problem(planning) or if you can't think of anything you can use what they are calling instrumental support...ie asking others for specific advice. Also emotional support is good and you are getting that here. So for emotional it's like everyone will say you're great and your mom need to stfu but for instrumental you can ask more specific questions like if my mom says I need to lose weight should I confront her about it or ignore it or whatever other possible solutions there are. Actually your instrumental support is pretty good too at a 6 but you could bump it up a bit...if I had your scores I would focus on planning which is literally coming up with solutions and applying them. For example you could tell your mom that the meds make you gain weight but you have to take them to remain out of the hospital. Instead of having her just complain about you maybe you can ask her what she would do in the same situation...does she have any effective weight loss advice? That sort of thing where you are engaging her ideas but not the negativity. I can't guarantee it will work but you may have better strategies since you know her better.

[Sometimes psychotic]

Originally Posted by blackwhitered

humor 8
self-distraction 8
acceptance 7
planning 6
behavioral disengagement 5
instrumental support 5
self-blame 5
denial 4
active coping 4

Everything else got a 2 or 3 so they're things I pretty much never do.

Oh wow an 8 in humor...I need to learn that...

[blackwhitered]

Originally Posted by Sometimes psychotic

Oh wow an 8 in humor...I need to learn that...

I use humor to distance myself from pretty much everything. Dark humor. I think I'm hilarious. Though the jury is still out on that. XP

[Sometimes psychotic]

http://www.psy.miami.edu/faculty/cca...ts/p89COPE.pdf

Here is a paper that explains the styles a little better....

Thanks for this Sometimes! I've seen this before but never actually done it on myself before.

I got 8 for self distraction & planning, 7 for humour, and 6 for active coping and acceptance, which I thought were quite good. But I also got 8 for self blame which I need to work on. I also got 5 for venting, 4 for positive reframing, emotional and instrumental support, and denial, 3 for religion, and 2 for substance use.

*Willow*

Originally Posted by blackwhitered

I use humor to distance myself from pretty much everything. Dark humor. I think I'm hilarious. Though the jury is still out on that. XP

Yeah me too. When I was a medstudent I saw this a lot. Things that probably weren't really funny to most people who didn't have to deal with it on a daily basis just HAD to be laughed about, otherwise the only other thing to do was cry...

*Willow*

[Sometimes psychotic]

Originally Posted by WeepingWillow23

Thanks for this Sometimes! I've seen this before but never actually done it on myself before.

I got 8 for self distraction & planning, 7 for humour, and 6 for active coping and acceptance, which I thought were quite good. But I also got 8 for self blame which I need to work on. I also got 5 for venting, 4 for positive reframing, emotional and instrumental support, and denial, 3 for religion, and 2 for substance use.

*Willow*

Yeah those first scores are pretty awesome...the self blame though....hmmm is that cultural like the UK or your family or just you?

I think it's just me Sometimes, rather than cultural or familial. Like that other thing you posted a while back showed, I consider bad things to be my fault and good things to be down to luck or something rather than because of me

*Willow*