[Smiling_Jack]

Okay, so my T told me that alot of schizophrenic people have problems with relationships. Weather thats friends, family, or even sexual relationships.

i was just kinda curious to know if this holds true. How many of you guys and gals have had problems, because of your illness or possibly your personality.

[Sometimes psychotic]

I tend to have 1 close friend at any given time....I've never had a boyfriend so yes....

[Smiling_Jack]

Originally Posted by Sometimes psychotic

I tend to have 1 close friend at any given time....I've never had a boyfriend so yes....

See i have 3 friends i talk to usually, but i get really jealous if they all play games together and stuff. I've only had one real relationship that i still obsess about. I'm trying to numb the pain of it with that old saying" The way to get over someone is to get under someone else" But these girls bore me to death. I am too clingy and overly emotional about things and that seems to be my downfall. Ever since my symptoms started to show ,people avoid me like a plague. I feel so alone in life right now for some reason.

[newtus]

i had one relationship too. i used to obsess about it all the time. it lasted for 6-7 years. in high school. im 23 now.

the only relationships that are hard for me are sexual relationships or friends. i have no friends. so thats easy but sad. and i have no sexual relationships. havent had some in years. for some reason people dont like me. they can tell im a bit off mentally. idk how exactly they do but they can. i can be a little out there so maybe thats why idk.

[Smiling_Jack]

Originally Posted by newtus

i had one relationship too. i used to obsess about it all the time. it lasted for 6-7 years. in high school. im 23 now.

the only relationships that are hard for me are sexual relationships or friends. i have no friends. so thats easy but sad. and i have no sexual relationships. havent had some in years. for some reason people dont like me. they can tell im a bit off mentally. idk how exactly they do but they can. i can be a little out there so maybe thats why idk.

I think alot about if mental people are meant to be with other mental people, or if we arent meant to breed...

[newtus]

we are meant to be with people too. i think its wrong for others to place that thinking on us. that one relationship i had the other person was mentally ill too. with borderline personality disorder and we clashed i think. idk if BPD and schiz are meant to be together but mentally ill people being with other mentally ill people could possibly prove good or bad. i think it just depends on the peoples personality.

[Smiling_Jack]

Originally Posted by newtus

we are meant to be with people too. i think its wrong for others to place that thinking on us. that one relationship i had the other person was mentally ill too. with borderline personality disorder and we clashed i think. idk if BPD and schiz are meant to be together but mentally ill people being with other mentally ill people could possibly prove good or bad. i think it just depends on the peoples personality.

Yeah.... Its just hard for me to connect with people man. Thats why i came here. Hoping i might find some friends to skype with or just text me everynow and then. But that optimism is totally gone.

[Hobbit House]

I'm Bipolar,my wife is Schoaffective we have been married 9 happy years. We met on No Longer Lonely : Online Social Community for Adults with MentalIllness a website for people who struggle with mental illness. good luck.

[Smiling_Jack]

Originally Posted by justusryans

I'm Bipolar,my wife is Schoaffective we have been married 9 happy years. We met on No Longer Lonely : Online Social Community for Adults with MentalIllness a website for people who struggle with mental illness. good luck.

I had no idea they had a online dating site for people with mental illness.... guess i could try it out.

[Hobbit House]

my wife and I were the first couple married on the sight. have fun and good luck

[Loial]

I was wondering the other day whether such sites existed.

I used to have a reasonable circle of friends & had previously had a girlfriend before my first psychotic episode but now I don't have any friends in the same city as me & I only keep in touch with 1 by phone, who lately I haven't kept up with. I see my parents once a week on average. I do talk to some people through another forum.

There is no doubt my illness has had a huge impact on that front even if it was in remission up until recently.

Originally Posted by Smiling_Jack

I think alot about if mental people are meant to be with other mental people, or if we arent meant to breed...

Its not a case that a mi person is meant for a certain course. It just that the sympthoms are not conducive to sexual relationships. Ive being on here awhile and the majority here are single , including myself , and most of the people that are in relationships become sympthomatic after the unions were cemented. In terms of breeding , its an interesting point , so why does sz persist when so many that suffer it are not procreating , it seems to belie the idea that sz is an overwhelmingly genetic disease. Ahh so , i think Mi is firmly rooted in the genome , and exists on a spectrum of severity , this is not in doubt. But what if sz is really largely genetic , we must remember that non procreation has only become a selection pressure in the last 100 years, before this procreation occured at a far younger age , young enough to pass on genes before a psychotic break. So we'll see where this is all going in another 100 -200 years time personally i expect cases of mi to drop. But on the other hand if a viable really successful treatment comes on the market , incedents of sz could go up, But we'll see ; the persistance of sz is interesting. In the end until a cure is found , and i think a cure will be found , these figures are bound to fluxuate.

[Atypical_Disaster]

I don't have relationship problems because of my schizoaffective disorder/schizophrenia. I did have problems when I first got really sick but I chalk up some of that to being a teenager. I got sick early so I missed out on normal high school friendships and relationships. But I grew out of that.

I have plenty of good friends now. I'm not in a romantic or sexual relationship right now because I prefer being single at this moment in time... and I'm very picky about my partners anyway. My social life is full, rich, and rewarding.

[newtus]

Originally Posted by Atypical_Disaster

I don't have relationship problems because of my schizoaffective disorder/schizophrenia. I did have problems when I first got really sick but I chalk up some of that to being a teenager. I got sick early so I missed out on normal high school friendships and relationships. But I grew out of that.

I have plenty of good friends now. I'm not in a romantic or sexual relationship right now because I prefer being single at this moment in time... and I'm very picky about my partners anyway. My social life is full, rich, and rewarding.

youre lucky

[Atypical_Disaster]

Originally Posted by newtus

youre lucky

I realize that. I'm a rarity apparently.

[justmeandmyhead]

I have a sexual relationship but no friends. I've not had friends for years now since everything flared up. I think I'm out of practice meeting new people but hopefully going to uni will help me with that. I'm very socially awkward and always seem to say the wrong things and offend people. I think because things started when I was young I haven't developed the same social skills as others my age.

[Bigmike727]

I wouldn't say I have relationship "problems" per se, I just don't like to put myself out there like that. Like I can socialize really well when the situation demands, but I just don't want to most of the time. I have one close friend, tbh thats all I really need, I don't care for others much, but I can feign concern and interest when I need to. Personally, I consider myself a schizoid, I fit most of the criteria. My medications have been helping that though, I find that I've been more outgoing these past few months in particular. Something in cigarettes helps me be more outgoing aswell, like I feel much more confident with a smoke in my mouth, like it's some kind of reassurace for me. I don't know, maybe I'm just weird lol.

[Smiling_Jack]

Originally Posted by Bigmike727

I wouldn't say I have relationship "problems" per se, I just don't like to put myself out there like that. Like I can socialize really well when the situation demands, but I just don't want to most of the time. I have one close friend, tbh thats all I really need, I don't care for others much, but I can feign concern and interest when I need to. Personally, I consider myself a schizoid, I fit most of the criteria. My medications have been helping that though, I find that I've been more outgoing these past few months in particular. Something in cigarettes helps me be more outgoing aswell, like I feel much more confident with a smoke in my mouth, like it's some kind of reassurace for me. I don't know, maybe I'm just weird lol.

I can't go about an hour without a smoke. Also im alot more social with a cigarette in hand.

[The_little_didgee]

I'm a loner. I was born that way so this trait is not about avoiding people and conflict at all. I like people and have two friends but I need a lot of alone time so I can pursue my hobbies and recover from social interaction. Being around people overwhelms and tires me out. I am also socially awkward. Maintaining a conversation is really hard for me unless the other person is leading and the topic is interesting.

Getting close to people isn't a problem so I would not say I have relationship problems. I don't like conflict and drama.

[Nightside of Eden]

Mood swings, paranoia, and a tendency to get lost in my own head and ignore people have all made maintaining close relationships for a long period of time difficult for me. I have decent social skills and am outgoing enough in social situations, but I don't easily take it to the next level or maintain contact with friends over a long period of time. I tend to just kind of drift away from people.

I had the same problem with romantic relationships to some degree, though I also had some pretty dysfunctional and dramatic relationships over the years. Somehow my fiance and I made things work despite meeting when both our mental health was at low points, though. During the first three months we were together he had an episode of manic psychosis and I had catatonic depression and paranoid delusions. Making it through that is probably why we have such a good relationship now.

I am one of those people who strongly gravitates towards others with serious mental illness. All my current friends and my fiance are 'mentally interesting'. I think I reached a point some years ago where I just lost the ability to connect with 'normal' people who have no sense of what I have to deal with in my life.

[ZehR]

"Schizotypal personality disorder is a personality disorder characterized by a need for social isolation, anxiety in social situations, odd behavior and thinking, and often unconventional beliefs. People with this disorder feel extreme discomfort with maintaining close relationships with people, and therefore they often do not".t

Quite a huge problem for me in my life. I used to be very popular until I was 12 and started having extreme negative symptoms.

It was like turning from an extreme ADHD extrovert to schizoid introvert.

I do however like sociopaths. For some reason, we just click even though we are opposites. I think it's my ADHD.

[The_little_didgee]

I have autism spectrum disorder which I don't doubt. My developmental history supports that diagnosis. This is the main reason why I have social problems. After I got sick my social problems got worse. It has also affected my motivation so I don't go out and socialize as much as I used to.

[akittykat]

Originally Posted by Smiling_Jack

Okay, so my T told me that alot of schizophrenic people have problems with relationships. Weather thats friends, family, or even sexual relationships.

i was just kinda curious to know if this holds true. How many of you guys and gals have had problems, because of your illness or possibly your personality.

I have! My whole life has been a system of paranoia and broken relationships. I was only recently diagnosed- so I'm hoping to work on this.

I would love to have friends. I'm tired of looking at the world thru windows. I really want to be a part of it, even though it scares me.

[Lonely star]

I've been with the same person for 19years and he knows now about my disorder but during the early stages of our relationship we fought a lot and often wonder whether to end it or keep on trying. Not until he found out about my illness did he fully understand why I'm the way I am. He became accepting of it because he suffered from some of the same things as I. So maybe finding someone similar to you but not quite the same is the key to a happy relationship. Try the web site you never know what might happen.

[Smiling_Jack]

Well i've tried this site out, i havent gotten really anyone to message me yet. I've got hope though that i can meet someone who truly understands and someone who wont be afraid of me. I know im only 18, but this loneliness and misery needs to stop. I atleast need a distraction.